Dregs of the dregs on there.

Yes, but HOW OLD WAS YOUR WIFE?

It also doesn’t really seem like such a big transition. Am I missing something? She went from corporate blah blah blah to corporate blah blah blah - no mention of pay cut or trajectory change, or anything that would actually signal that this is some kind of major life change.

I know, and eventually it is such a turn off for me, because it just needles me so much. I’m convinced that it’s some kind of passive aggressive anti-intimacy move on their part. Insecurity, but still annoying and not sexy.

I was all for this until I got to the part about how having a baby makes you more empathetic. I don’t have a baby, but because of my job (in the helping profession, not selling myself or other’s work, but providing a necessary service to people going through difficulties), I actually am quite empathetic. Yes, that’s…

I know, but she gives it some pathos. I actually think she’s interesting to watch.

You know, January Jones, who is 37, could do it too. And she can play younger.

I think older actors/actresses can play younger more convincingly than younger playing older. Jlaw just has too much baby fat and bouncy 20-something energy to be believable as a woman over 33. Whereas Dicaprio is a young looking 40-something, so he gets away with it more.

My friend works for this NGO - Family Independence Initiative - which I think is what you’re looking for. Their founder won a MacArthur Genius award a few years back, so you might have heard of it then. http://www.fii.org/

Eat, Pray, Vomit.

I feel for you - I have done similar things in the past. I recently let someone down via text and it actually bummed me out a lot, but I felt better about myself than if I had ghosted. FWIW.

Agree re: shitty implication in article. I think it’s usually the opposite. The person being ghosted didn’t do anything really, the ghoster just decided they don’t like them anymore, and that is much harder to express in communication than “you did x and it upset me.”

You should just say something. What you’re doing is hurting him. It’s much better to say hey, you are awesome but the chemistry is not there for me. I mean, this is your problem, but you’re making it his.

Well of course there’s a reason, there’s always a reason. But maybe the reason is that the ghoster wildly misinterpreted something or has a tendency just to stop liking people with whom they have reached a certain amount of intimacy. That reason isn’t always the ghostee’s fault. I think that’s what we’re saying. But…

Yeah but if it is someone you went and had food with and talked about stuff with, they deserve at least a text.

You suck.

Because you think the world turns on your decision to be unhappy. There’s a certain kind of narcissism in thinking that you are holding everyone’s lives together by deciding to stay in a bad marriage. But I don’t know the details. Have just heard too many male friends complain about marrying the wrong person and now…

He’ll be fine. This is your fear talking, not your concern for him. But I never cease to be amazed at how stubborn and self-absorbed men are about this stuff.

*sigh* just do it. Leave. It will be fine. Honestly, no one cares. And your separation/divorce/crazy wife blues will get you laid by a lot of horny 30+ year olds for at least a year maybe 10.

Hi I’m pretty and men hit on me a lot. So annoying!