I didn't think I wanted to get married. I had the mentality of "if EVERYONE can't get married, I can't get married", then I talked to my friends and sorted things out. They appreciate the mentality, but they know that in Oklahoma, it'll take a long, long time for sexual equality (see Sally Kern). I'm quite excited,…

Good for you. It's hard to take that step. It took me a year, and I am so grateful my (new!) fiance was so supportive of me going to therapy and taking medication. Doctor-patient confidentiality exists, and unless you kill someone or commint another major felony that could put your mental health in question, it's kept…

1. Tonight should belong to Clara Luper, a. Oklahoman civil rights activist who pioneered sit-ins and died today, in addition to Hattie McDaniel.

The Boom, Oklahoma City. We, as a state, get bad press for being hateful towards anything not "normal" (see Sally Kern) but there are fun things to do here! We're not soooo backwards. ETA: Well, we're a little backwards. I'm staying here to attempt to reverse that, while all other progressive people here have made a…

Flowers? Or, do you have a farmer's market, specialty chocolatier or bakery in town? Maybe a nice little food basket. However, I'm sure they would be greatful for a nice handwritten note for their hospitality upon leaving.

So tomorrow I am going to a club (for brunch!) which puts on a Last Supper drag performance. I don't know what will happen, but I am so pumped.

So I graduated less than a month ago, without a teaching degree. Somehow the public school system thinks I am capable of teaching highschoolers in 3 months? I don't know if that says something good about me, or something bad about the public school system. Either way, cool. On top of that, it's the highschool I…

Steve Buscemi. For certain.

Ah, the apocalyspse took down the site. Angry god is a cruel, cruel (wo)man.

For those interested in native american affairs, TLC finally has a less-exploitative show/non-bridal show on about a girl named Shoni trying to overcome the problems that are inherent in growing up on a reservation. Check it, yo.

Is it shameful I can drink a 6 pack of Summer Shandy in 2 hours? I mean, it's weak beer, but stronger than what you can buy at the grocery store (I live in Oklahoma and anything above 3.2 has to be sold in liquor stores), but it's really like old lemonade that has fermented, so it's not so bad, right? And I'm done…

The other night the SO and I had a drunken 90's music video night. Chumbawumba, Blind Melon, Crazy Town, Spin Doctors, Bone Thugs. It was awesome. Old school is pretty awesome. Well, not any of the bands I listed, but some old school is awesome i.e. J.Lo. And my eternal favorites Propagandhi and Jawbreaker, but they…

That's totally how it happens with me, too, but in a negative/unpleasant way. Either I see 3 ex-boyfriends 3 days in a row, or get asked out by my students or customers 3 days in a row and it's super awkward because I have to be professional or customer-servicey. Yes, when it rains, it pours, and I never have an…

I am not starred and don't know how to heart, but: heart. I am just so sad I live in Oklahoma, so I know my governor is going to try to out-do her in terms of hatefulness, since that was her platform in November, and we are well on our way to do so. I guess it's Brewer vs. Fallin this year (see earlier post about her…

Gosh, I know. I am watching it now on MSNBC and they are flawless, in terms of mainstream beauty and whatnot. But, I do love seeing Kate break out in a huge grin for a split second while looking at William; it's so natural. It's like I'm at a friend's wedding: they're trying to be so respectful and serious, but can't…

It's important to keep in mind that it's gradual. Despite my visits to the therapist and the medicine, each day is a struggle, and each day I meet obstacles that, really, I make for myself. To recognize an issue in one's own life, I think, is the biggest step one can take, and the most progressive.

1. Avoid the people that upset you. If you can't, remember that it's only a moment- at work, at school, whatever. Time erases everything.

I would prefer that my recently paid (-first taxes ever) go to a situation like this rather than towards other things. In Oklahoma, our tax money goes to further marginalize the marginalized, so if the little bit I paid goes towards someone hoping and needing to avoid sexual abuse and assault, I'm all for it. Also, I…

And Elephants! Welcome, 304 lb. baby Oklahoman elephant. I'm sorry you have to live in a zoo.

Carol, Linda, Mary, Martha, Kathleen, Patricia, Suzanne, Nancy, Faye, Rosie (from Rosemary), Georgia, Virginia, other eastern-ish state names.