YES. It's this. I'm very much a talker, and I rarely have any issue telling my BF when there is a problem, but COME ON! You REALLY don't know that that last comment is annoying me? Reeeeeeeeeeeeeally? My guy is lovely and wonderful, but I think he relies on "I didn't know!" a little too often, when a tiny apology is…

Yes, exactly. If I'm being quiet, it's not to punish anyone with the silent treatment. It's to spare them the punishment that is my anger (and my anger will subside).

I just got a text message from my SO seemingly meant to be supportive of an issue i'm dealing with that basically said "I understand, because I deal with this every day" - seemed almost funny given that I'm currently jabbering on a blog about why I sometimes don't want to talk about what's brothering me... It will be…

Yup. This. Being passive aggressive is pretty much the least likely reason for me to do this. I just don't want to deal with an argument not worth having or possibly upsetting with no upside. Or it's not something I want their input on - which i don't think is a big deal as long as its subject specific and not just a…

This. I get more angry at the fact that they can't figure out why we were pissed in the first place!

Is your boyfriend my husband? This EXACT thing happens ALL THE TIME. Sometimes, even if I refuse to say anything, he will try to guess and then get mad anyway. What is up with that?

Agreed. Also, nine times out of ten I find it impossible to believe he doesn't know what he did or said that upset me. There hasn't been a single instance where my boyfriend was upset about something I'd done and I couldn't figure out what it was.

Yep. And even when I explain that I'd rather drop it than start an argument, he forces it out of me and then we fight. WHY IS THIS BETTER?

HOLY SHIT. Yes! Most of the time I say nothing's wrong because I don't want to start an argument. I know the second I tell him what's wrong he will either explain to me why I'm wrong or get all defensive and assy if it's something he did. Don't tell me you want to know if you're going to throw a temper tantrum!

Re: #2. This drives my boyfriend crazy, but it's because the whole "Just tell me" IS A TRAP. When I finally tell you what it is, you will explain to me why I'm wrong. I do not like this as it's often a matter of opinion and since it's bothering me, maybe try not to do it anyway?