I’ve had this experience as well. I genuinely think there is a large group of men who think women want extremely rough sex where they’re dominated, and they think that from watching porn. It doesn’t occur to them to ask if the woman is in to that, or that any woman wouldn’t be.

I wouldn’t be so quick to dismiss the idea that a lot of men believe this stuff is what women want. I’m not here to kink shame anyone, but the recent obsession with choking in more “mainstream porn” troubles me. Also, I’ve seen plenty of memes joking about making a woman gag during fellatio.

I’ll repeat what I posted above.

I am serious. There have been a number of men who have slapped me, shoved their cocks down my throat and put their hands on my neck when there was no prior discussion about it. If that’s not your lived experience, or you are a man and don’t act like that, great. But don’t you dare tell me what my reality is.

I had to stop reading about halfway through. This is why I don’t date anymore. Most men think this is what sex is. This isn’t sex. This is snuff.

My little cousin was in the military and, according to her, the gender problems are pretty pervasive. As in, they will do just about anything to demean their female colleagues. Feminism is out of the question—you have to be a “Cool Girl” to survive, and even then you’ll get thrown under the bus for laughs. It seems to…

There’s so much WILLING porn online that this sort of thing has me flummoxed. Participation in this is a red flag that screams “I’m a rapey bastard”.

I don’t really fuck with Farrakhan, never did. Quite frankly, his brand of Black liberation doesn’t seem to include Black women and that’s a goddamn problem.

On a basic level, this isn’t about Tamika Mallory or Farrakhan, it is about who in the black leadership class supports Israel or not - it’s about who controls black politics etc. If it was solely about antisemitism Rev Billy Graham’s body would not be allowed to rest in the capital’s rotunda, and people like Rev John…

Another example?

The irony of someone named “Jakoury” talking about embarrassing the race has not been lost upon me...

Oh forget this Jakoury McQueen guy.

Because having a white protagonist be the only overt voice in a movie against racism amongst law enforcement basically implies that the movie is ok with the white protagonist coopting black people’s mistreatment by white society to justify her own pain.

Just like it’s ironic that in this Time’s Up year, they still kept giving Oscars to (alleged) rapists and (alleged) wife beaters. Welcome to Oscar! Frances is the shit though, I love her.

This is quite ironic considering that Three Billboards basically only brought up racism amongst law enforcement to further justify the white protagonist’s mistrust of the cops while the movie treats the black supporting characters as props or passive observers while also giving unearned pathos to a racist character.…

AGNES VARGA 100% HAS A PURSE AND IT DOES NOT MATCH AND IT IS AMAZING.

The effect is magnified if you look at kids in the city vs the country. Rural kids go through the traditional paces. Child, then teenager, then young adult, married, and has three kids before they’re 30. City kid goes child, then at 12 they turn into a 25 year old, which is a state they’ll maintain for another 28…

I was definitely uncomfortable about that. As a queer woman, there’s always this underlying idea that we’re all just sex-crazed predators for those that hate us. Seriously, I’m 29 and working with a 19-year-old, and one of my supervisors actually tried to bring up me possibly “being interested” in her because we’re…

It didn’t bother me. Taking a strictly legal approach, Elio isn’t a minor. Taking a more nuanced approach, there’s not much evidence that Oliver ‘preys’ on him - in the book (and in the movie too, as I saw it) Elio is clearly acting of his own volition.

I’m bothered by the fact that you tried to be fancy and used “whom” when you should have used “who.”