Sympathy—dudes are mad flaky. I’d say remove yourself from the ring if it isn’t fun anymore; you deserve better than time that feels wasted. Do things that make you happy and fulfill you instead.
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One thing I find helpful is returning the awkward to sender. This bitch is the one making things uncomfortable by being rude; you are under no obligation to shield her from that. So, she interrupts: “Clueless, I’M STILL TALKING” and continue with your story over her. She says the thing about the gorgeous girl*:…
Fellow Black woman here: Good for you avoiding that Darth Fucking Susan. I get so sick of white women who ask me to hold their hand and absolve their bigotry because they want to feel like good people. Like, maybe you could try being a good person, Brenda? Have you thought about that?
Oh, darling, I’m sorry. That’s a shitty, shitty way to feel, and you don’t deserve it. For what it’s worth, you have friends here, and we want good things for you. I have some experience with feeling ugly and hurting and the universe is a ball of suck. I wish you healing, and a therapist who doesn’t suck, and some…
Yay, good news! And that’s such wonderfully good news to get—congratulations to your friend and cousin. My good news: I’m almost done with my internship! Don’t get me wrong—it’s been fascinating work, and I love Barbados, but in a week I will be HOME, in my apartment, drinking my coffee, with my friends nearby. And…
Yikes! That sounds rotten. Especially the smell of smoke. If you do find your clothes start to smell, hang them in your shower with a bowl of boiling water and vinegar; it works wonders (used to hang out with a ton of smokers). Regardless, I think you deserve a large slice of cake.
It looks amazing! I am saving up for my sisterhood tattoo I’m getting at Christmas—it will be a purple lupine on my right ribcage. If anyone has recommendations for tattooists in Salt Lake City, hit me up!
Healthy dinner and breakfast recipes: I’m a big believer in the power of quiche—one lasts me a whole week of breakfasts, and I can just make it on a Sunday and reheat it by the slice. I’m also a big fan of Buzzfeed’s Tasty section, or feel free to check out my Pinterest board of meals.
Yay! Beautiful apartments and good guys. Here’s hoping the unpacking goes smoothly and you find a good pizza place that delivers to your apartment.
Yelling is a sane response to this fucking insanity. As for good things, I finally got a pedicure! It had been literally months and my feet were so unpleasant and hobbity. I felt for the girl at the salon. But they are now soft and normal looking and bright pink! It’s delightful.
Demons. That’s all I’ve got. Or maybe like a Robert the Doll situation? Which still really comes down to demons.
It sounds like it, and frankly I can’t say I blame you. You sound fucking awesome! You deserve someone who matches your awesome, or at least aids it.
Hi! So, I’m in my late 20s and know now is the time to start getting into preventative skin care, but apart from sunblock, I have no idea what I should start using. If you had $100 dollars to spend, how would you use it?
One thing I will recommend—buy a kickass interview outfit that fits the body you have now. Interviews are stressful enough without feeling like your suit is slightly too tight or worrying you’re going to pop a button into the Executive Director’s eye.
If your insurance doesn’t cover therapy, you can also try a CBT workbook to do some of the same things on your own. Also, as someone whose depression/anxiety have also been worse than usual lately, here are some things I’ve been doing to try and get myself back on track:
THIS IS SO PERFECT.
I’m okay—I spent most of the day binge-watching Fortitude starring my Fantasy Dad, Stanley Tucci (highly recommend: dark and twisty and bugfuck insane) and getting a pedicure. That felt especially good—I’ve had Hobbit-feet all summer, and now they are reasonably human and not sandpaper-y.
Yay! It sounds like you’re giving yourself time not to rush into anything, which is good, but also letting yourself enjoy it a little? This is good. You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to, but there’s nothing wrong with enjoying the flutters while you have them.
No, it’s not normal. And yes, it is male entitlement. And toxic masculinity, which has beaten the capacity for introspection from a lot of them as well.