It’s not about the booze at all, it’s about someone trying to dictate what I should or shouldn’t do. This is why we fight. Trying to pretend like your idea of how life should be is the only way is your fucking problem. Not mine.

If you’re FORCED to go two weeks without alcohol, then yes, you’ve got a bigger problem. Fuck Qatar and fuck their agenda. 

Honestly, there has been less snow than I expected—under a foot at a time.  Last winter it got below zero for three weeks, but this winter and the one before that have been pretty good.  Hell, it was 60 today. I grew up in Eastern Oregon and it’s pretty much the same.  Less bitter and long than Montana.

I’m sorry, would you be willing to be assigned partial responsibility for the heinous acts of a woman who lives across the country of you on the basis that “women don’t do their part to speak up enough against this?” or “why can’t women just stop raping people?” That’s why you’re getting backlash; the vast, vast…

Because treating all men like potential rapists is a non-starter. Sorry. It may not have even have been a member of staff, so still your jerking knee.

While I vehemently am disgusted by this story, as a MAN, I take offense to “Why can’t men just stop?” Not all men are rapists much like not all women are “asking for it” when they wear slutty clothes. Maybe you should rephrase it to “why can’t rapists stop?”.

<i>why can’t men just stop?</i>

Because all women are perfect and they never do horrendous things? There have been quite a few cases of women poisoning or in other ways kill patients (there was even a couple who killed together to keep their relationship alive). Does that mean all women need a male escort as well, or is it a case of a small number…

I honestly didn’t put a word in your mouth though. I only drew conclusions from what you argued. If someone argued for “eugenics”, i’d draw the conclusion they were a nazi. You argued for a policy of rabid sexism. What conclusion should I draw from your argument?

Actually, yes. You’re taking a pretty narrow viewpoint. It’s not that men should be monitored when around helpless patients — EVERYBODY should. It’s not just men that abuse and murder patients — women do it too. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Angel_of_mercy_(criminology)

It’s also entirely possible a non-staff-member man who raped her too. It could have been another resident (not everyone who lives in long term care is bedridden), it could have been a family member (or even a husband?), it could have been some creep who visited someone else and wandered in. 

do your part to call out shitty men like this so they don’t have to exist.

Well odds are this is one of those places that hire a bunch of minimum wage care worker. Just based on that you already have a situation where its hard to hire for and there is a high turn over rate. If you eliminate men from being hired there now you have even less of a pool to pull from.

Isn’t this kind of silly? Do all men need to be monitored all the time? Is that really where we think the conversation should go?

I’m just highlighting the fact that their presence is often a burden in situations where they have to be monitored at all times.

You ask some great questions, and I agree with your questions 100%, but there is one question that you asked:

Seriously, not a single person in 9 months wondered why her stomach was growing or why she had stopped menstruating? I hope she wasn’t being administered anything that would harm the baby’s development.

It’s hard to be obese when you can’t feed yourself for a decade. Unless the staff was force feeding her like a goose, as well as raping her.

YES.

Oh my god. This immediately brought to mind the scene in Kill Bill where the hospital attendant had been assaulting her while she was in her coma and just jesus fucking christ. This poor woman.