I was just given some feedback from a male coworker who said I was too confident. We are part of a small cohort that focuses on leadership development. He said I needed to be less opinionated and more respectful. That it would make me seem more intelligent. My head almost exploded.

I’m sure that’s part of it. In my experience, women are less likely to speak up because we feel like we have to be 100% correct about everything, and better and smarter than the guys. I’m sure it’s all in my head, but it can feel like if a guy screws up, he just made a mistake. If a woman does, it’s because women…

I really hope the next part of your story is “and then I punched him in the dick.”

The men in my class were also terrible at ADR. They would start the process by making threats, every single time.

oh god yes. I came from a women’s college, so when I got to law school I really had zero issues raising my hand if I felt like I had something to contribute — I just wasn’t socialized to “let” men control the conversation, I guess? SO MANY PEOPLE thought I was so obnoxious.

I’m in the midst of completeing a doctorate (full funding, federal scholarships, all of the things.) and the same applies. I talk about this with colleagues (profs - even full profs!, postdocs, fellow grad students) and no matter how excellent our scholarship, men of all stripes (regardless of level of education or…

Silly, Deerlady, girls and women can’t be victims. They’d have to be people to be victims.

Agree. I don’t remember him saying a word about Josh’s sisters. Everything was in support of Josh.

So my support was for his sisters, who were the real victims, I felt like they were being exploited by the media.

None of them should be on TV anymore.

Yes. But also, super Christianity like this is just effed when it comes to the sex. I used to work with a woman whose son — when he was eight — was sodomized by the leader of their church in Texas. The boy went to his parents and another couple in the church. The parents were asked by the church council to leave the…

Exactly! Girls MUST forgive; God said so. Now, if a boy had been violated, we’d have a different story here...but women just aren’t equal! Not lesser, just very, very different...and not as important as men.

“They are still stunned that this is how it has all gone down,”

:grabs popcorn and watches mansplainer be torned to shreads:

I once heard three hipster dudes talking about how awesome Helvetica is for a good 20 minutes in a coffee shop. Your argument is invalid.

I am currently sitting in class, behind a group of 3 guys who have not shut their yapping mouths since they started talking. They are talking about fantasy sports teams....this is in public. your point is invalid.

Ugh, so true. When I worked as a hostess at a fancy-ish restaurant, patrons who complained about a "noisy" table were often referring to a group of people of color laughing at normal volume. Can you believe it? Laughing, in public! Never mind that white guy business lunches often got...boisterous?

Anyone who doesn't think men are capable of prattling on for hours on end about asinine bullshit have clearly never listened to sports talk radio.

I can't believe the number of commentors who claim they don't know how lines work and their cuttings were innocent mistakes. Are you guys that stupid? I have never had anyone accidentally cut in front of me.