I suppose not. But from the perspective of an adoptive parent, see struggle to think of my child as a commodity.

Good luck, mom. You sound like a wonderful person! Hope your son is home soon!

It's very difficult these days. We adopted in 2005 after about a year of paperwork, etc. We started the paperwork to adopt a second time in 2006 and were told that our travel date would likely be in 2016. We hung in there for a couple years but ultimately had to let it go. It's different in China now. I hope…

Well, hell, I don't know. If I've been bitching at the wrong commenter, then I'm horribly embarrassed. I read through your comments, above, and frankly, I don't know what the hell I was responding to if I was, in fact, responding to you. My apologies. Ugh, I'm a jerk.

Hi, you! My girl is at her first sleep-away camp, so I'm worrying of course. Congrats on your grandbaby! I can't believe how the time flies, as cliched as that sounds. I'm so glad you're still here on Jez talking adoption. How can people be so willfully angry and ignorant?

What are you talking about? I have zero problems with open adoptions, etc., and have already promised my daughter we'll travel to China to see what we can find, if she wants. It's all about being transparent and willing to talk about everything.

Get off your high horse. Adoption is a huge, complicated topic, as you well know, so it behooves you with all your insider knowledge and education not to make the kind of statements that denigrate and belittle other adoptive kids' experiences. From your comments, it appears you have some big issues with adoption,…

This is ludicrous. If you knew what people go through to adopt, there's rarely a rescue complex there. This is just ignorant.

I'm neither liberal or conservative, but your comment was right fucking on. Thank you!!!

But this is the whole problem, that you think you have the right tell wide people how to grow their families. Do you not see how incredibly intrusive and galling it is? Why should you get a say in how I adopt? Are you one of those people who comment on what a pregnant woman is eating?

Maybe, maybe not. But I'm positive you do not really know.

Cosigned as always, sister!

How dare you judge my family? You have no idea what we went through trying to adopt a child in the U.S. It is so frustrating reading all the ignorant statements such as your own here. I'll be sure to tell my Chinese daughter how more important it is that she be immersed in her Chinese culture from an orphanage than…