Except that people from places like New Zealand talk like that all the time. And they certainly aren’t trying to be purposefully obnoxious by speaking with their natural accents. I am not necessarily the biggest fan of upspeak, but I can’t imagine that most people are doing it on purpose to bother anyone. That just…

Can we all agree that Melania is no captive victim here? She may despise her disgusting beast of a husband, but she’s in on the insanity all the same.  

What is he, Amazon? “People who have dated Anda have also enjoyed...”

I think a lot of women train themselves to brush aside red flags. It’s part of the socialization we get to be nice to men and give them the benefit of the doubt at all times.

I hover because I don’t want some judgmental asshole deciding I’m “neglectful” and calling the cops. It’d be a waste of resources on an already taxed system, bro. 

Yes, and we basically stopped attending family gatherings because his family refused to acknowledge the fact that I have my own family and might (oh so silly me!) occasionally want to see them on the holidays, especially since I am 3200 miles from them and have been living here for 6 years now. No I’m #notatallbitter…

Amen to that. My mother was shamed for having gotten pregnant in HS. She was sent to an awful late 1940s Catholic home for fallen women. Her child was taken from her a few weeks after he was born. For a few weeks the nuns had the moms breastfeed their infants, why not save on formula, right? Then, one day, her baby…

Samson had good hair tho.

Yep, this. I haven’t been back since 2010 but have a lot of friends who go every year, and I think your comment is spot on. While I’d wager that the asshole quotient has grown significantly in recent years (though there have *always* been some assholes out there), it sounds from what my friends tell me like they’re…

There’s absolutely no call for comments like this. I edit my work—we all do—but the night moves quickly and sometimes there are slip-ups. Please use this space to engage kindly and thoughtfully.

I always liked Gin and Tonic because on the nights I wasn’t feeling it, I could switch to tonic and no one would notice the difference. Plus if you frequent a bar, you can generally get multiple tonics free. I usually made the switch on or after the second drink so “worst case scenario,” if someone buys me a drink,…