He has not been screened for anything. I doubt he would ever visit a psychologist, as he likes to brag to me about his mental stability and resiliency. One time he got mad when I had a panic attack in a crowd, and he refused to walk beside me back home(walked about 20 feet in front of me). He told me I was being weak…

I had an abusive parent who wouldn’t let me sleep, and it was hell. I was on eggshells all the time. I couldn’t fall asleep because I was bracing to be woken up. As an adult, now I relish in doing whatever I want when I want. I nap when I want. I sleep in on weekends if I want. I go to bed with my cats and a movie at…

Yeah this story raised a lot of alarms for me, mostly because I know birth control sabotage frequently coincides with emotional and/or physical abuse.

I’d be willing to bet that he often uses that age gap to override her opinions, preferences, and hesitations.

Or whatever board regulates chiropractors and doulas.

I’m starting to think there’s a reason he was so good at playing a rapist vampire.

My doctor was awesome and spouses were required to leave the room as well.

He’s doing a serious disservice to other men. Generally, playing around with a woman’s birth control will introduce you to a world of hurt.

Also, it’s really fucking awesome that your doctor’s office hands that out at prenatal visits.

I’m also disgusted by the assumption everyone involved takes of well, he threw them out. That’s it and sex without birth control is inevitable. Like she can’t leave him, refuse him, get a refill on the prescription, or whatever. Oh, no, the man threw them out and there’s no other options.

That’s because it is sexual assault.

I’m so confused how this is any kind of charming.

Seriously, how coddled and unduly confident do you have to be to think that this will just go over as a cute story? This is someone that has never faced consequences in his life.

Thank you! It wasn’t even just that one story...so much of that conversation, what they’re talking about and how he says it, is completely fucked up.

So not only did he throw out her birth control, but then he made sure he was filmed “interviewing” her about it because he knew she would freak the fuck out. Well, that’s....disgusting.

Reed: I’ve never seen this. Was I drunk? Was I coherent?

Does Somerhalder assume people will find this story charming because he’s not ugly? Because it contains at least 3 of the warning signs of abuse in the booklet my doctor gave me at my first prenatal visit.

Yeah let me tell you. It takes a lot of manipulation to get a person to the point where a dude can throw away all her birth control pills while a friend films it and then she can have his baby. Just based on this interview, he’s been pushing her boundaries and testing her limits since they first starting dated.…

Reproductive Coercion is not cute, guy. This girl might wake up in a year and realize she married a controlling psycho. This is like the beginning of a story about a guy who kills his family because they lady breaks up with him.

I will never be able to see this smug asshole without thinking about how he pulled this shit. Had Reed been smart she would have dumped him then and never looked back. A man who would do this kind of thing has zero respect for you.