Agree. Many touching moments that broke me, very enjoyable binge.
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Haha! I thank you for your Random Internet Person Sympathies - I’ve been doing a lot of that on this thread especially! You are right; men are basically told that being repressed is being manly, and to show any emotion is to undermine who they are as a man, which is all shades of screwed up. I think he’ll be fine…
Yeah - mentioned it up above, when my dad says ‘it’s still shit, isn’t it’ at others platitudes, that’s when I feel we’ve cut through everything. And then I cry, haha.
It’s something I’m actually trying to teach the boyfriend at the moment, that it’s ok to be sad and to say you’re sad. He had someone die, and his parents essentially told him to muscle on through and sent him to school the next day. His chaplain collared him in the corridor and was like ‘please go home, you need to…
OH GOD. I keep going down this threat thinking that at least I’ve read the worst (you’ll move on/time is a healer/you’ll find someone else). WHO THE EVER LOVING GOD says this thing to people?! ARGH
What is this?! Here (UK) we’re supposed to pull over for all sirens - fire, police, ambulance, and mostly everyone complies as quickly as possible. How can this not be a thing?
Yes. There’s a thing my dad has started saying, when people say ‘oh we had good years together’ or ‘they were a good person’ etc., he just looks at them and goes ‘yeah, it’s still shit though isn’t it.’ I actually love it, as it just cuts through everything, and acknowledges that the new normal isn’t as good. Although…
Oh Christ on his ever-loving bike. I am so sorry.
Do you know what? People showing up with food and not knowing what the fuck to say is better than people not showing up because they don’t know what the fuck to say (see: repressed fellow Brits). Being awkward and there is always better.
That is so horrendous! I want to weep....
Oh god this. You just expressed my crazed brain thoughts so eloquently, yes!
Yes - this was me with my ex as well, I have now got to the part where I’m like ‘I don’t actively imagine your painful death, but you’re out of my life now forever’. But THEN I get to this fucked up thing where I think I should be friendly to him, as part of some sort of bullshit/forgiveness thing, and then I’m like…
But she’s not even that big back here in the UK. And I think the way the journalists try to breathlessly describe her as model-ambassador-designer-singer-songwriter-icon etc. just kind of makes people go ‘sorry, who is she?’
Or, think you’re AWESOME parents who are doing parenting right. I would just high five any parent and any baby with this rocking hair
My mum: ‘love flies out the window when the tax man knocks on the door’. Basically another way of being like ‘don’t marry a pauper’...ye gods
I can see more sensible comments further down (with actual links and work put into them!) but just anecdotally, I have heard light boxes are great for SAD. Worth reading into I think. Love from another UK-er
Go your mum’s friend! What a fab idea
This is such an amazing idea. Well done her!
Mine too! Worst punishment ever....
I’m so sorry for your loss.