Prior to ED drugs, men aged out of reproduction (couldn’t get it up) in their later years as well. People always seem to forget that.

You start seeing higher rates of autism, ADHD, bipolar disorder, and schizophrenia in children fathered by men in their thirties. It only get worse in their 40s and 50s.

I think this should read they think that what they want requires a woman under 30. Because the truth is women can have healthy babies well after that. My aunt married her then 28 year old husband when she was 32. She had her first kid at 35 and her second at 38. They were both healthy, normal babies. My great…

Admittedly, I am not as familiar with this field as others (I’m currently involved with microbial metagenomic research), but from the readings, it could be that the number of divisions of the spermatogonia may play a role (more divisions, more chances for mutations to happen and accumulate). Some mutations may also…

I read something that is starting to show that it’s actually the age of the father that might be more likely to influence parental age-related birth defects in babies. For the longest time, it was assumed to be the mother, and they never even checked for whether it might be the father. When they corrected for…

Internet dating exists; it really takes a lot of the pressure off if you’re worried about finding someone and asking them out. Men do have a lot more options a lot later in life as our society is 100% A-ok with men dating and marrying women substantially younger than themselves and the same is not true for women- you…

Sadly, I had this same conversation with a long-time male friend of mine. He told me that I am [paraphrasing] “past my prime because I am over 30, set in my ways (WTF?!?), had too much baggage (uhh, no?), and unable to have as many kids.” Nevermind the fact that he is the same age, balding, and severely Republican…

...right. Which is why it’s hard for both men and women out there in the dating world, AND why there are quite a few people who get married and have babies in their 20s.

Half your age plus seven is a modern concept unrelated to what you describe. In the era you describe, it would have been entirely proper for the 50-year-0ld to marry a 19-year-old woman.

Yes, I do. I was someone who got in my own way dating (see other comments I’ve posted). It was absolutely my fault that I was too quiet and shy to get noticed, just like it is the men’s fault when they’re too quiet and shy to get noticed. It happens to either gender, but shy guys ALSO ignore shy girls, to the point of…

I had an ex in my early 20's who was much older than me, and I kept in touch with him a bit, until he became to toxic. He, in his mid 30's, would focus on women in their early 20's, and given that he was not conventionally attracive and emotionally kind of a mess, he never made much headway. When I gently suggested he…

This is my constant fight with dudes on reddit who whine about relationships.

This is my constant fight with dudes on reddit who whine about relationships.

yup—these are always the guys who expect the young nubile thing they are looking for to breed with will do all the parenting work and emotional labour in the household/relationship for them. they have no idea how unfair and unrealistic their expectations are, and are mystified why the perfect family isn’t crystalising…

Like the guys in the article, I think he wants a family in the abstract and doesn’t comprehend the work it entails.

Case in point.

it’s not just a lack of foresight, it’s also a lack of insight. they have very inaccurate ideas of what kind of people they are.

Plus he sounds like he’d be just a ... stellar partner.

That’s exactly it; these quotes ring of entitlement to me, which is why I have no sympathy. Mentioned:

This is another example of how a sense of entitlement can embitter people. Just because you decide you WANT a family at a certain age doesn’t mean you’re going to automatically get one.