YUP.
Is anyone else bothered by the phrasing here? No way to treat "a lady"? I feel like the shitty, misogynist response to this ad is like "well, she ain't no lady." Dunno. It irks me.
Raaaaah! Too close to home! I know I should have this shit figured out— and sometimes I feel like I really do— but God, there are ROUGH patches along the way. Watching Girls makes me feel the same way; I don't want to identify with these types of women but I do.
if anyone is looking for the Jon Stewart interview here it is...
Because she's talented and awesome.
Jesus Christ on a tricycle, those are terrifying.
As a 13 year old, I am offended! Then again I'm surviving middle school by repeating the mantra: "I am Jane Goodall and they are the chimps" so you might not be so wrong about the maturity level of 13 year olds...
Shit, I'm so sorry. I just broke up with my boyfriend too, we weren't engaged but we did live together and he did it in a pretty hurtful way. I also went out with my girlfriend last night and got hammered (it was so fun but I'm paying for it today). Breakups are the fucking worst and I can't even imagine how hard this…
I was where you are quite recently and this website brought me so much relief: http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/. Look through the list of topics. The author discusses having no contact with your ex and how to heal and value yourself after a breakup. It was honestly a life saver.
There's lots of good advice in this thread, but I also second the recommendation for It's Called a Breakup Because It's Broken. There's some good advice in there. My ex and I broke up and like other stories here, he had no plans whatsoever to keep in touch once the breaking up was done. I couldn't understand it, since…
Dear Bella,
I know that you're going to want to punch me in the face for suggesting this, but I think you should get a copy of "It's Called a Breakup Because it's Broken." I know...I KNOW it sounds like I have zero grasp on the situation that you're going through. And I know that because that's how I felt when someone suggested…
Sell that shit. All of it, just get rid of it. Use the money to pay back whatever you need to pay off. If there is anything left over use it for a vacation.
I was abandoned once, by someone I loved more than the whole world. He left for war and couldn't bother with a "that was nice, but not for me" email. Nothing. The ensuing anxiety and depression for the next two years was awful. My life got away from me, I was really broke, and living with awful people who couldn't pay…
These things are both far, far easier said than done — I know because I'm speaking from experience here — but here are my two recommendations:
Give him back the engagement ring. Or sell it to recoup the cost of the dress (just be sure to tell him that's what you're doing). Be sad for a little while, and then thank your lucky stars you got out before it got expensive and complicated. I've been where you are, although our breakup story was messy in different…
:\ I'm sorry that things are really bad right now. I think a Finn Butler quote is most fitting "Nothing is infinite, not even loss".