Maybe the trick is to stop perceiving women as things to get?

In my experience, guys who genuinely treat women with respect as equal human beings, who are funny and interesting and do things to get out and connect with people, don’t seem to have that problem so much, even if they’re not conventionally handsome.

I think you need to recognize that the “meme” isn’t clumsy; your understanding of what it’s saying is. Have you explored that possibility? You’ve attributed a meaning to it that is ill-formed, incorrect and not widely held. This should give you pause about your understanding. This is not a situation where everyone…

I am a male, and in all fairness, I have to advise you to suck it up and grow a pair. It’s this kind of perceived victimhood that causes the hostility.