Yeah, I agree that if the conversation happens, it needs to be given the level of seriousness it deserves. I was kinda trying to write out an email draft but just kept feeling like it was too... I dunno, informal?

I think your advice about the email is fantastic. If I do write her one, I will definitely use your advice. I was just trying to write out a draft, but realized how raw everything is emotionally and felt like I couldn't do it without my anger coming across. The most horrible thing about this is knowing that her douche…

Thanks so much. I just talked with my mom, who basically said the same thing, and then spent like an hour crying about it. It sucks because we are both going into our thirties and I always envisioned us raising kids together and remaining lifelong friends, but I guess sometimes you don't keep the friends you thought…

*Just want to say - I didn't realize how huge this was until after it posted, and I tried to go back to edit it down and it didn't give me the option. SORRY!!! :(

Has anyone here ever ended a friendship with a very close friend because they were treating you like crap, even if it was maybe because of their shitty significant other? My friend really hurt me and I feel like I'm just done.

Thanks. Yeah the more I think about it, the more I feel like I'm not even sure about. I told the cops he was wearing a white t-shirt, but now I think maybe it had been a white sweater/ long sleeve shirt. But maybe my mind is just making shit up? It's so confusing. And I sort of remember the back lights of the car just…

Holy shit. To me, the incompetence of police can be far scarier than the actual bad guys out there. A couple years ago some weirdo was trying to break into my bedroom window during the night at my old apt. I told the NYPD he was definitely light-skinned, and yet when I went on a ride along to look for him, they still…

Jesus christ. I'm so sorry you had to go through that. I can't believe you went outside, lol! But honestly I probably would have done the same. Did you seek counseling for PTSS/PTSD afterward? I am so incredibly thankful that I didn't actually see those guys being shot, because that would have made it 1000x worse. It…

Yes that is so on the money. I absolutely feel like I have no control with this whole thing and like just some helpless idiot who had a chance to really help and failed. The officers didn't leave me any contact info (they just took mine) and I've really been wanting to know if the victims are okay. I doubt it will…

Oh my god, this is really good to know. I think it definitely re-opened some old trauma that I had never really processed. A couple years ago someone was trying to break into my bedroom window in the middle of the night, but luckily they caught the guy and I was moving to a new city (and much safer apt) a week later…

Have any of you guys ever witnessed a crime and then felt a strange combination of traumatized plus guilt about not being more helpful? Does anyone have advice for how to feel better about it? (I've been wanting to post this all day anyway and didn't even realize the Columbine anniversary was today... weird…

Oh honey. I'm so, so sorry you had to go through this. :(

Take your time. This isn't about everyone else; this is solely about you and you need to do what's healthy for you right now. I wasn't divorced but a couple years ago had a horrific breakup with a long term boyfriend/fiance. I've noticed that my friends and family seem to be uncomfortable with my insistence on being…

He just up and ghosted, after 11 fucking months??!! That is insane. I've ghosted after like a week before, and even then I feel like a giant asshole. But eleven months!!

Agree with everyone else, and just try your hardest to keep busy, even if it's just volunteering and/or hobbies if you aren't getting interviews. During my period of unemployment was the absolute worst my depression has ever been, so really just make sure you don't fall into an "I'm worthless" downward spiral. I was…

Fuck. That is so terrible :(

Agree with everyone else here - don't be disappointed, you're doing great! It was just taking on a little too much right now, but you'll eventually work yourself up to it if you continue with slow increments. Impatience is always what causes my biggest setbacks with running. Just take it easy and maybe ice your hip;…

Just want to echo everyone else here - this is a great thing and you'll find friends in no time! I have moved twice to new metro areas completely alone and have always come out with a solid circle of friends. And especially if you're going to be in school, it's kinda impossible not to make good friends. It is NOT…

Yeah, I had the same thought. I could NOT have taken the high road like that. I know Nick Carter seemed like a douche a while back (around his Paris Hilton days), but in the last few years it seems like he's become a pretty mature guy with his heart in the right place.

Oooh! How was he acting, was he being pissy?