It was fucking nuts dude. 

Holy shit

Woo! I’ve got one! So, this chick was the SiL of my best friend, and when the baby shower invites  get  around, my best friend *begged* me to go because “jesus christ Heathens, this bitch is insane and I need a damn witness”

Okay, this was not over the top, but I bet I can take the cake for most pathetic baby shower. My twins had just been born super early and in dire condition. They were the size of squirrels and ensconced in the NICU unable to breathe on their own, but my aunt insisted on going through with the shower she had planned. I…

My father was intermittently placed in foster care growing up. He’s an asshole. But he did say he has fond memories of the families he was placed in and that they were more stable than his own. Obviously that’s not true for everyone, but I also don’t think the “keep kids with their families at all costs” is…

jesus christ.

We’re in this situation, and it’s so complicated. We adopted transracially from foster care, but it’s not a decision to be made lightly. Good luck with whatever your future holds. My only advice would be to really consider if you want a baby, if you want to be a parent, or if that’s just what you think your life is…

It is very, very distressing to realize that your mom cannot pick you out of a photo with other dark-skinned people.

My sister’s in-laws frequently told my adopted niece that she’d be living in a hut with a dirt floor if she hadn’t been adopted. Unfuckingbelievable.

The white savior vision is strong in transracial adoptions. I would be a millionaire if I got paid everyone told me how “lucky” I am to be adopted by an American family. I’ve also had people tell me that if I weren’t adopted, I probably would have been a prostitute in my home country. Gee, thanks.

Yes! As a transracial adoptee, I wasn’t able to effectively express and name these emotions until a few years ago, in therapy. It took several months of EMDR for me to reconcile these feelings I had that I felt guilty for having. I am a recovering alcoholic and also have anxiety disorder.

No. Make the United States a place where a woman doesn’t have to choose between shelter and supporting her child. If we had stronger social safety nets and more pro-family policies, women would be less likely to choose adoption.

I have to admit Kellyann looks better in that picture than is her wont: like if the Cryptkeeper started doing paleo and tapered off on the meth. The inch thick bronzer-as-foundation still has to go, though.

Isn’t it interesting how racist, entitled, rich, white teens are “boys” and “kids”, but a black child who is shot by law enforcement is a “young man”? Nope, no institutionalized racism here.

Unfortunately, we know the script.

The “he’s just a kid” arguments fall on deaf ears when the kid is black and shot dead. It should not apply here. Even at 12 my kid knew better because he’s not an asshole.

It’s gotten to the point where if I see something talking about “both sides” I know one of those sides is going to be hateful.

Why would you talk to those men? Why would you stay there with those men there? Did you like the attention? Do you enjoy that kind of attention from men? Did you want that to happen to you?

If Savannah sincerely wanted a balanced interview, she should have questioned this kid the same way women and girls have been questioned for their choices, especially by the Catholic Church!