There’s also another factor: If you carry a firearm for personal protection, you have to be okay with the idea of killing another person.

Oh yes, much better! Wedding set for September 2019 to a guy who genuinely likes me and only makes a slightly negative comment about my appearance when I ask! :D 

Man...

I’m a woman who frequently got “friend-zoned” due to my appearance, so I got to hear allllll about other women from my guy friends.

They’re not silent online, or in communities where they think comments are safe. (I’m a woman who frequently got “friend-zoned” due to my appearance, so I got to hear allllll about other women from my guy friends.)
What I noticed is, yes, there are plenty of men who have a high threshold for embarrassment but it’s...…

I didn’t want him to know where I lived so I stopped a block away and said, “Look, romcoms lied to you. I don’t like you. I think you’re a rude jerk who won’t leave me alone. I’m doing my best not to give you the impression I like you because I don’t. Please go home now.” The whole time he never took me seriously and…

“But the embarrassment that comes with being a woman can feel wholly inevitable: Being too forward; talking too much; not talking enough; seeming too shy; texting too soon; coming across like a bitch or coming across as too easy. For every overstep there’s the possibility I’ll lose ground just standing still. The fear…

I’m a gay man but I have male and female friends. One thing I’ve noticed in talking with my guy friends about women is that, in general, men do not respect women.

When I was single, I remember talking politics with some guy I’d met at a party. He tried to call me out for something, and I sternly nailed him back with facts and data. I sincerely thought he was a jerk because of the way he smugly raised his objections to my argument and rolled his eyes. I walked away.

I’ve been happily out of the dating game for decades (and was terrible at it back when) but I’ve always thought the modern hetero iteration, and especially in New York City, is just awful and hugely favors men who get ego and sexual gratification from an endless string of casual dates with women, many of whom are…

Thank you for writing this. I identify with the cooking for the reasons you described, and I’m glad you explained Kali to me. I’d always wondered because the illustrations are so scary.

Prachi, this was a really beautiful piece. You’ve been doing excellent work all year. I can’t praise you enough for weathering through your loss and the relentless barrage of Trump news and still being such a goddamned pro. Wishing us all much happier tidings in 2019.

But you are good with “domino?”

As a woman I never really understood the Vagina ones—- I mean—- a vagina doesn’t go on forever—- you can feel the back it with your fingers. Like maybe if something is broken and will cause damage by yanking that might make sense- but for the other ones - are women just so unfamiliar with their own Vaginas that they…

I’ve lost count the number of time I’ve accidentally fallen on to a 6-8 inch penis shaped object, with my ass. It happens!

That green skirt must have been too short though- she kept having to pull it down throughout the song. I personally think the Eartha Kitt version should be the only one played on the radio- she’s the only person who made it sound like the joke it was. It literally contains the lines “the deed to a platinum mine” and…

Yes. I have in-laws, and a phone loving, well meaning yet completely irresponsible sister in law. My solution was to unapologetically say “I’m sorry, I’m just not ready to leave my new baby yet. It’s not you, please don’t take it personally, I’m just not ready. Let’s netflix and pizza! AND WINE!” That works for me.…

I agree—don’t let the sister-in-law anywhere near your baby unsupervised. I have no real advice except for the fact that it really can’t hurt much, at this stage of the game, to really play up your role as an overprotective new parent. Your baby is a few weeks old—silly you, you just don’t want to be away from that…

Job update: I got a call on Monday from the recruiter who did my phone interview. I now have a face-to-face interview with the pharmacy manager in charge of transitions of care and the emergency department. She would likely be my manager if hired. I’ve been knuckling down even more to make sure I nail this interview.

tbh, I find those kind of gift pranks insufferable. It’s like they have to get some enjoyment at your expense back in exchange for the gift.