Very true, but its ethically and scientifically dishonest to say that, for example, if you are a woman who drinks you should be on bc, as the CDC has “recommended.” We know binge drinking is the problem, lets not conflate that with the other kinds of drinking that exists. Including you know, barring pregnant women…

So if one were to take the time to read the studies (and there are a ton) fetal alcohol spectrum disorders are normally caused by binge drinking, and binge drinking in the second half of the first trimester. There has been no evidence found that light to moderate drinking after the first trimester causes any harm.…

aww thanks!

Thank you. The first feeling I felt was relief. Then, nothing. And then panic that I felt nothing. I loved her, I cared for her and was protective. But I got no rush. In fact, I don’t think I got those feelings until she was about 2 months old. I also can describe it as, they could have handed me any infant. The fact…

I think what MissAndry said is really key, and I want to point to where she mentioned her gut, because I think that’s what it comes down too. I didn’t want kids for a long time, and had many reasons for it and really thought it was a no. But when I sat down and pretended my husband was going to get a vasectomy and…

I agree, it helps a ton. My husband and I pretty much have an equal set up. I do more kid things, only because he sees her more during the day than I do, but when I’m reading to her, playing, bathing her, he’s cleaning dishes, walking the dog, cleaning the litter box, preparing the coffee for the next day, etc. And we…

What you said.

Also, one of the reasons I decided to do it is I think about my life now with my family (parent, in-laws, siblings.) We are fortunately people who like each others company, when my kid is older and can contribute meaningfully to that, I think it will make life more fulfilling.

So I refrained from commenting on this topic on a story that was highlighted yesterday, so now I’m going to. I likely fit the demographic these shows depict. My husband and I are both lawyers, we one vehicles and a nice house. We were together nearly 10 years before we decided to screw up someone elses life and have a…

Yeah you can. Put in for FMLA, and a stress claim. Then you can use SDI (or the state equivalent) and get paid for temporary disability. That is what paid leave for maternity is. Its payment for a disability. In some states, (only in companies that have more than 50 workers) they can get an additional 6 weeks for baby…

I am absolutely appalled by stupid names, and I think when she's older, (like 3 or 4) I'll say the correct terms. Funny enough, I have dear friends who went through this with their twins. Their daughter never wanted to say vagina, and mom really wanted something that she felt was more age appropriate, whereas dad was…

My kid is two. I’m struggling with this honestly. When I’m washing her, I say “bits.” My issue is it’s not her vagina. I’m cleaning her vulva. And I HATE the word vulva. Call me a weirdo, but I hate the way it sounds. Not sure what to do here...

Oh yes, I agree. But I know many people are sex positive and view critiques of porn as an attack on that. I don’t think its contributing to all the social ills that some people think it does, however, I am confident in saying it creates unrealistic expectations in boys and girls, and therefore can absolutely…

Yes. I think with age, this is what I’ve realized. I would never have thought, as a teen that porn was a realistic measure of sexuality, actual sex, what women look like, etc. I think I knew this due to good parenting, but I also think that since it was something we could only watch when my guy friends could sneak a…

Yes, and at least you have that. Stop watching the porn. I don’t know if you still do, but here you are, an adult woman, a mother, who can tie some of her insecurities to porn. I have massive body issues as well. But they aren’t from porn, mostly because I’ve never been a fan. And, I also think it would further…

So I think, if my daughter tells me some guy she’s was fooling around with made a comment about her labia, I’m going to print him a chart showing what they actually look like, and explain to the fucker that what he saw in the porn was only one of many ways in which a woman can look. And if I have a son, he'll be…

I mean, where does it end? So, you technically have the ideal labia, yet you still heard comments? I’m going to lock my daughter up. I can't even...

I’m 36 years old. Until I started having down time at work (4 years ago or so) and reading blogs, I did not know this was a thing. I don’t think this is a coincidence that as porn has become free, and easily accessed that young people’s perceptions are getting warped. I do know that since I have what is considered…

If this doesn’t show that in fact, large doses of easily accessed pornography is having an impact (a negative impact) on children I don’t know what does. This makes me so, so sad. And I realized, had I constantly seen these images or had my male peers had this much access to these images I would have been one of those…

My husband and I are both attorney’s. He’s an estate planning and trust attorney. We don’t have a trust! I know, so ridiculous, but yeah, we aren’t refusing to do it, we just haven't. No one can do it for ya!