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Yup. She was beautiful years ago and is beautiful now. Then and now the conversation is rooted in fatphobia, social manipulation and policing of women’s bodies and the need to coerce women into an antagonistic corner. They seem to think this new “celebration” and “approval” because her body is what they think is okay

This all day! Lol. 

Loud and wrong. “hierarchies” is the word you’re struggling and failing to write in your obnoxious, inaccurate and pathetic attempt to antagonize WillSelfDestruct. You also tip your hand by insisting on saying POC. If you can’t even identify her as Black or part Black, you’re not only insulting her, you’re also

I responded to that troll as well. I don’t think that’s an actual West African Black person. Having lived both there and in the U.S., what it’s saying is a lie.

I don’t know if you’re a nonBlack troll or an actual West African Black person deliberately dishonest. I tend to think you’re the former. I’m myself West African and have lived on both continents. What you’re saying is patently false. There lightskinned and biracial Black people in Africa. They are family and not

Thanks for the hearty laugh. Signed, a dark skinned Black woman.

Starred for the laugh. It’s absurd on its face but somehow was legitimized by the roles she was offered and felt entitled to accept. The Harriet Tubman movie had was problematic for other reasons but your comment reminds me of how the screenwriter Gregory Allen Howard said a movie exec suggested... JULIA ROBERTS as

I always said that if I ever married interracially I’d do my best to educate my children (particularly daughters) about and do my best to protect them from those who within and outside my Black race fetishized them and would’ve been incapable of seeing their beauty if they were my shade. I also would’ve wanted them

Thanks :) Ironically, this is an illustration of where one should gracefully take role of active LISTENER and ask compassionately worded sincere questions in order to actually learn and grow. Instead, defensiveness and straw men abound. It smacks of, “I’m representative of us all, as I usually am, so why are you

And guess who those who is jettisoned as you rightly point out when women’s issues are flattened? The ones with the least privilege, relegated to the margins and expected to be grateful for crumbs when they/we do the greatest labor. 

PRECISELY. The straw man argument of “wanting to rep fellow biracial people” when none of us is saying they shouldn’t rep themselves or be represented. Furthermore, they are overrepresented. Aside from U.S. actresses, the majority of U.K. actresses and singers we get to know are biracial. As I mentioned in my post, if

DEEPEST APPRECIATION to you! I posted a lengthy reply before seeing yours, but as you can see I’m in the greys. Feigned inability to grasp the issue is disingenuous. Thanks for saying it where it can be seen.

Thank you, Zeba Blay, for writing this article. It’s such a painful topic that’s frequently dismissed by those not affected by it-including the aforementioned light-skinned Black/Africana folk. It’s steeped in historical and contemporary White racism and it’s so demoralizing to witness and experience the

Thanks for replying. I’m glad we both know the other is acting in good faith and that misunderstandings come from unintentional problems with how we expressed ourselves. Also, we’re again in agreement that both those actors shouldn’t have their being Asian policed because they’re biracial. I tend to be verbose (as

My comment was in support of your statement about Asian men in media...not an attack. You addressed some of the issues I alluded to in your response. However, I disagree with the notion that my pointing out they were half-White was reductive. It’s neither insult nor compliment-it’s a statement of fact. And when the

Both men are also half White. I’m not negating their handsomeness, I’m a Black woman who notices how light/biracial Black actors are largely presented as attractive, good, rich. It’s part of the same bias for phenotypical proximity to Whiteness. I understand why as an Asian man you’d notice this. There’s been a long

ALL of THIS. No attention (or at least way less) and no support. There’s no incentive to care about the Black players, fans or any of what anyone who cares wanted from a boycott. Jay-Z isn’t the elder statesman he thinks. Eminem rapped about r****g his mother and ex-wife. Even as a fan back then, it was too much. Had

Dear jystad, thanks! I’m just so frigging tired. So shout-out to you for finding fuel here...as opposed to the resignation I often feel. That’s a more empowered position.

Sis, like you said we know love has various iterations. The dynamic we’re referring to is largely absent when the White/nonBlack husband is married to a Black woman. There isn’t a pattern of bashing Black men or holding them up as superior in ways that support the lie and brutality of White supremacy at their

Disappointing, but not shocking. I wish Mary J. weren’t part of this mess. She’s their token woman and this “deal” with the NFL isn’t progress. Dre is an unrepentant batterer/abuser of Black women. Kendrick threatened to pull his music from Spotify when they announced they’d no longer play R. Kelly or XXXTentacion’s