There are slender people with diabetes as well. While I don’t have it, I hear fat people being shamed all the time about being more active. I’ve been unwell for other reasons, but because my shape and size are considered “desirable” to cishet men, I don’t get preached to about exercising, though I know I NEED to be…

I hope it fulfills their expectations and more. Joy and blessings to them. With the pain they suffered, I celebrate every beautiful and affirming experience they have.

Aye yo, leave your misconceptions of Africans out of this. We bathe regularly. Standing showers maybe uncommon because of how many homes are constructed, but bucket bathes are not- whether or not it’s from a faucet at home or a well, river, etc. In fact, there are books that show that enslaved Africans’ practices is…

Thanks for introducing me to Rolling Ray. YouTubers Adrianxpression and King of Reads, both gay Black men are where I first heard it. Then cis-het Black woman, Kimberly Nicole Foster. But it was always clear the specific part of the family that coined the expression. This is reminiscent of the White Trumpists who wore…

My close relative who has lupus has 3 children. It’s been extremely difficult, painful and traumatic experience for her, her spouse and their (now adult) children. During a flare-up, the disease incapacitates the person in ways that require intense caretaking so his claims that he’s fully present AND at every…

This bloody fool. I hate when people engage in sophistry- especially as a smug expression of how “knowledgeable” they are. Outside of any outside influence, marriage and family have always been important to Africana/Black people on the continent. There are books on ancient courtship/mating rituals and protocols,…

Right. And people from those countries (of which I am one), look with disdain at those of our folks who do this. He’d be viewed as an irresponsible, undisciplined, unserious and unspiritual person. Are there rich guys in Africa who do this? Absolutely. But it’s understood to be very transactional. It’s a come-up…

The percentages of people practicing polygamy because of African traditional heritage are very slim. The majority are Muslims. However, some Muslim-majority countries like Mali have an option in the registry where you can state that monogamy is the type of marriage being embarked on. There are also many Muslims who…

The title of which I understand to have been a phrase created by the very group he loathes.

*are more respectful...than I and my generation were at their age

I would think that about Lil Boosie. This cat is proof-positive that though many more folks in their twenties are respectful, accepting & and committed to unlearning hatefulness that I and my generation (I’m in my 40s), as with racism, these attitudes are being deliberately passed down with proud recalcitrance. And…

I’m soooooo sorry that these evil people inflicted such hatred on you. I’m having such an intense visceral reaction, I can only imagine how painful it was for you. They were wrong, evil by definitions of any spiritual/religious path that values decency and utterly lacking in integrity or a philosophy of ethics by the…

I’m from Philly and happy to root for us, especially when major obstacles have been overcome. However, this self-hating dark-skinned man bashed dark-skinned women in his “comedy” and subsequently refused to apologize saying the only group he was unwilling to offend were gay people because he’d be “misconstrued; it’s…

I feel for all the children because I think you’re right that this will implode or explode and they’ll be pitted against one another. Regardless of what he thinks, “being a good dad” is very clearly predicated on more than currently having money to fling at the mothers. I don’t know a single person with a chronic…

I know of her and the other two only through him. I don’t wish any of them any malice, though I’m not caping to be their best friends. I’d once thought (like you seemed to based on your comment,) that he was very open and vocal about his being single. However, impregnating one woman while sharing his home with another…

Sorry to be the bearer of bad news. His ex-girlfriend Jessica White said she was living at his house when she had a miscarriage. It was shortly thereafter that she learned via Instagram that Nick Cannon had already impregnated Brittany Bell. So having “raw” sex with multiple partners without informing them risks both…

I was very engrossed in the book even though I enjoyed NO DISRESPECT more. It was such a vicarious thrill and I DID root for Winter even though I had beef with some of her attitudes/actions. The Coldest Winter Ever is still a unique perspective we were missing in the male-dominated gangster/hustler narratives in…

I do think he feels entitled and some of us see being individually successful as a banner of progress for us all. That was the old paradigm till we learned that’s not it at all. A few of us in symbolic positions is NOT a victory for the masses. And I join you in celebrating this generation. We each come with our…

You’re right. He thought it would “unite Americans”. I have respect for what those before us endured  that we couldn’t fathom. However, Rep. Clyburn was born in 1940 and has had to navigate S. Carolinian mess for decades, which may have affected how he views what looks like progress. He’s also enjoyed some of the…

All of what you said.