Hugs to you, internet friend. My mom passed away in June and this will be a tough holiday season. Like you, I genuinely appreciate Vin talking so openly about his sorrow.

Or, he’s just a massive thundering twatwaffle.

I’m so sorry for your loss. Holidays are tough. The last time I saw my father in law before he died was Christmas. He told me I could “make [him] Christmas cookies all year long”. Every time I bake I think of him.

Thank you I mostly feel completely helpless to comfort my husband who is taking the loss very hard. Don’t get me wrong; I had plenty to complain about but you tend to forget those little things when the person is gone.

Fuck cancer indeed. FIL had cancer as well as needing a heart valve replaced. His body couldn’t recover from that surgery. I’m sorry about your father as well.

Right? And a parent is a huge loss! Yeah it’s going to take more than a year to process grief. And the thing is, it can hit you out of nowhere when things remind you of that person & it’s like grieving all over again.

To me it felt like being unmoored. It’s so hard even though it’s the natural order of things. The alternative is what my grandmother has gone through. Losing a child — even one that is a new grandmother herself — isn’t something I’d wish on anyone.

You NEVER get over losing someone very close to you. It just gets easier, with time, to bear the new reality. It would be a lot kinder for anyone experiencing grief if we would be honest about how it changes everything.

Cancer is fucking horrible.

I’m so sorry for your loss. I’ve known enough people with contentious, even toxic, relationships with their in-laws to know how beautiful it is when you truly love them and they love you. I hope that soon you’ll be able to enjoy Christmas and your memories of him, but don’t push yourself; grief has its own…

I’m so sorry to hear that. It’s so hard to deal with these voids our loved ones leave behind, because there’s absolutely nothing to fill them. My dad passed away 3 and a half years ago and I’m still floored by it sometimes. One of the hardest days of the year is his birthday, when we’d always have these special things…

Internet hugs to you, friend.

I’m so sorry for your loss. My mom passed away a little over a year and a half ago. Holidays are so tough with new(ish) grief.

My father in law passed two years ago today & Christmas was his favorite holiday. I’m sure eventually the season will be a time to remember how much he loved us & getting together with his large family (6 children, 5 spouses & a dozen grandchildren) while still managing to make way too much food. But right now it just…

Well, isn’t that that cat’s pajamas?

She’s doing better. She’s actually starting to bully her sister Stormeggdon the Dark Lord of All. And I’m starting to let her go naked when I’m home. So, be happy for Lady Gaga the cat!

Actually, you should feel bad for Lady Gaga the cat. She over grooms because her previous owner was killed by her boyfriend over the summer. Then Lady Gaga had to go to a foster home where the other cats bullied her. Then she had to move to another state to live with me. Immediately after the move she was fixed. She…

I have a cat named Lady Gaga. She has to wear pajamas because of her over grooming. You can feel bad for her. And also think she is adorable.

Ugh thank you. This just struck me as so heartless. Don’t we have enough legitimately horrible people to be angry with?