This is one of the reasons I love Tig Notaro so much too. You feel a little bit of each of their vulnerabilities on stage. I don’t care if it’s cheesy, it feels very human watching them.

It does suck. The first anniversary of my dad’s death is coming up soon and I’m dreading it. It feels bizarre to have gone nearly a year without talking with him.

Us women always have to have the last word apparently!

You have my condolences. And it does suck and you’ll be numb or distraught or veering from one another or *perfectly fine* for some time and none of those things are WRONG. If you can’t function like a normal human being and are sat in your underwear eating ice cream from the tub that’s fine (unless you’re still doing…

It’s sad and scary when it happens to anyone so young. It’s especially sad when it happens to someone who really seems like one of the good people and someone who was very loved by other good people. Patton seems like such an great and genuine person and someone who is and was a good father and husband.

My dad died 3 years ago. There are still moments where I’ll hear a new band or see a new movie, and for a moment I think “I should tell dad about this, he’d be into it,” and then the weight of the whole thing hits me all over again.

I hated it when someone told me that I would always miss my parent and it would always hurt. But that’s the truth. It becomes manageable chronic emotional pain, with fewer and fewer breakdowns.

To me, the waves of grief idea really worked. I would just be doing something and all of a sudden I would be drowning in grief, helpless, taken by this huge wave. The waves keep coming, but farther apart and smaller, and now they’re more like a small, twingey reminder instead of a tsunami I was helpless against.

This! it will always suck but it eventually isn’t all-consuming. but man grief can come out of no where and sicker punch you in the gut. I lost my dad almost 20 years ago and last year I broke down bawling because I thought of how much he’d have loved watching my niece play ball. but most of the time I think of him…

They just don’t know. They think they know because their kitty died or gramma passed when they were ten but they don’t know SHIT about what that particular, soul rending pain is like so everything they say is impossibly stupid and trite.

And those empty platitudes serve one purpose: to make people who spew that shit feel better about themselves and more secure that no bad shit will happen to them.

Widowed at 40, here. Fuck the new normal.

I had the chance to see Patton at the Irvine Improv in one of his first official shows after his wife’s death and it was some of the best stand up I’ve seen live. Not only was his banter with the audience so quick and smart, but the stuff about Trump and his wife and daughter was so on point. There were moments in…

I lost my husband to melanoma 4.5 years ago. He had just turned 50, and I was 10 years younger. I am better now, and even got extremely lucky in finding a rather amazing, patient love again 8 months ago, but I am still a mess in spots.

“If they would call it a ‘numb slog’ instead of a ‘healing journey,’ it would make it a lot easier,” he continued. “Because if they call it a ‘healing journey’ and it’s just a day of you eating Wheat Thins in your underwear, you’re like, ‘I guess I’m on my healing journey.’ But if they say you’re going to have a…

Bless him for telling the truth. The euphemisms around death are are not helpful. They’re insipid.

I read that and I have an hour left at work. I want to burn a whole vacation day to just go home now.

“She won the argument in the worst way!”

I am so heartbroken for him. I remember seeing him perform at the Largo a few months before his wife passed and the way he talked about his family was just so sweet and loving.  I cried when the news of Michelle’s passing broke. It’s just so, so sad.

Ah, Patton is smart and great at explaining what a loss and “healing” really feels like. I really like him. Glad he’s back out there.