That is a truly depressing state of affairs.

It’s not just the ring. As a hiring manager for a large company, I also Google candidates and troll FB pages. Trust me, if someone is engaged it will be there.

Unless you have a tiny lizard curled around your finger that spits poison I don’t either. Well, to be honest I’d insist on petting it/trying it on.

Totally. I paid my rent in flirty glances and bought groceries with a flash of cleavage. And the Gas Co. was happy to take a wink and a smile.

Wait wait. Let me complete this.

Meanwhile, my boss told me I deserved less pay as a single, childless woman because the married with child guy in the same position “Needs the money for his family.”

This is what we were told *in freakin’ law school* 15 years ago, and I still see this advice popping up on legal blogs.

What a relief. I was afraid it was because it meant there was less chance she’d put out.

Yup, had the same common wisdom advice bestowed upon me. There was also the even more unseemly caveat; that your ring meant you’d be less DTF your way to the top. This was told to me by a recruiter, albeit not one I was working with but rather one who was trying to seem impressive at the bar. He practically whispered…

With larger rings, the assumption was supposedly that you were more likely to ditch the job after the wedding because a woman with a rich husband was less likely to care about her career.

When I was job hunting a bit less than a decade ago, the “common wisdom” among my fellow interviewee ladies was also that you shouldn’t wear an engagement (or wedding) ring—but back then the reasoning was not that potential employers would assume you were high maintenance. Rather, the rumored thinking was that an…