But Jia, don’t you know, you’re a writer for Jezebel, you have super magical secret powers that the rest of us don’t! Just go to your local nail salon, point to someone, close your eyes and BELIEVE, and that person will start making a living wage right then.

The kind of women I know who go to someone else to get their nails done would scoff at the idea of tipping them :/ Money makes a lot of people cheap....besides, any competent business person can figure out a way to pay these women a living wage. Don’t give the customers the option to shaft them, and don’t do it…

Dude, maxi dresses are my go-to in summer because most other things look and feel too fussy, or are way too “casual” to wear out and about. I have a huge chest, but my boobs are shaped kinda funny, so I don’t need to wear a bra 24/7, and bandeau bras that can either match or be hidden by a maxi are so much more…

I gave it a shot before finding out what a self-loathing racist she is, and I was unimpressed. I really didn’t get the hype, it seemed like all my female friends were all about Mindy and identified with her so much (even though none of them are nearly as narcissistic or irritating). I guess she hit the niche of the…

I snorted.

Well, I’m not in KS, so I’m not in my wheelhouse exactly, but this is the kicker:

Girl, r u wearin a grill?

I cry when I’m mad, too. But usually when it’s something dumb

After the honeymoon period in St Petersburg wore off and I got super homesick and depressed, I would get teary in metro stations and pretty much anywhere I was alone with my thoughts. Thank gawd for giant sunglasses, I just wore those til I got somewhere I could tissue up.

I am such a crier for also being such a bitch, hah. But it’s over silly things. Like a sad part of an audiobook, or remembering my pet dog growing up. I cry daily.

never 5get

Rawrck, kinja did a thing and deleted my reply. But essentially, yes, lower income parents are less likely to pursue this option in a typical “X won’t pay child support so he can’t see little Y” situation because they probably won’t win — you do have to be able to make your case, and usually the case is that adults…

Hahaha, yes, I visualize that sometimes when a subject is touchy. Who knew so many people only read the first few sentences of my explanations then try to say I don’t know my shit? I mean, arguing is kind of what we do for a living, at least the OP didn’t resort to getting too nasty about it. I’m used to people…

I think a lot of people underestimate their poverty and think that going to a shelter is giving up and becoming homeless like one of the evil poors. But chances are, people around them see an abusive situation, and would only judge positively for an abused spouse sucking it up and taking themselves and their children…

I don’t either if both people go in, eyes wide open, knowing that they’re going to disappoint each other more often than not. I’m not trying to sound unromantic, raising children isn’t a very romantic activity. But if both people are good parents and honest with each other, more power to them. My issue is when one…

Yeah, like I said, they usually do. Honestly, a lot of the dudes who wind up in these situations are in and out of jail so the possibility that the papers were just not received is completely viable. If we can get both parties to mediation, it’s a victory. They don’t have to like each other but the mediator usually…

Most of the time the parents come to an agreement somewhere during the process when they see just how drawn out and complicated it can get. I’ve seen plenty of almost-abandonment cases, and it happens a lot more in divorce law, which is way easier to handle especially now that we can serve divorce papers online (woo,…

I was being a bit tongue in cheek about it, and while institutions like the Catholic church do support seemingly endless birthing, I’d never sanction reproductive abuse. Some women do want lots of kids, and if you’re a guy who does too and holds the same beliefs, it should be common sense to get together. But you’re…

Even if you have money, it’s traumatic. How I see it is this — would you rather pay thousands now in lawyer’s and court fees, or cough it up in installments for the next 18 years? Honestly, a lot of people would rather pay a small amount each month, hence why these cases aren’t that common. Even if you have no…

Hey, I never said it was a breeze, I just said “this is possible to do”. Hell yeah it costs money. And plans are really good to have. I also never said that it works 100% of the time — nothing does in the legal system, especially in the state it’s in now. So sure, I’ll tell you how it can work, but every judge is…