I'm at work and wearing these right now:

Hard to say. But it will be difficult for any of them to listen if they don't ask and if we don't honestly answer.

Good article, Kara. Also, let's look at this impressive (nauseating) piece of academic jargon: "To call someone "basic" is to look into the abyss of continually flattening capitalist dystopia and, instead of articulating and interrogating the fear, transform it into casual misogyny."

That's the trouble with movies. You have to do a big, public romantic gesture in a movie, because the little things that make the biggest difference don't play well on the screen. When my husband getting up early when we're both hungover to run to the store so that when I wake up there's fried eggs and Gatorade…

Watching male strippers is sooooo embarrassing. I went to Thunder From Down Under for a friend's bachelorette party.

You have to be careful, those bitches will cut you.

Classic MN shade:

Yaaassss! And let my spiritual house mother explain "reading" to the upcoming legendary children:

My grandma is a master shade-thrower. She is unfailingly polite in a way that leaves you plagued with insecurity and self-doubt. I think she perfected the art by being married to my grandpa for 60 years. (They had a traditional marriage, in that he was really shitty to her and took her for granted and she never…

Shade comes from reading. Reading came first.

Excellent! My dad worked at the UofC and I am from Woodlawn. The world is indeed a small one!

Where I work, there are so few black people around that aren't cleaning or door staff. It's like, "oh, another sister here— welcome!" I've also noticed that it seems to be the women with natural hair that smile at me more. (I too have natural hair.) I think it's more a professional thing, rather than a class thing. I…

Musa Okwonga has an article on Medium about this. I do it to because I live in a predom white area of the UK. I also tend to smile at and get smiled at by other professional looking black women.

Do you feel the compulsion to do this in all spaces or just predominantly non black spaces? Like, I definitely always display social solidarity with the other black girl at the mostly white party, but when I'm just walking through Harlem or the Bronx, ain't nobody got time for a half million head nods.

If you wish.

It's not a faux pas. It's comedy. Some people find it entertaining.