I ghosted on a friend like that. Used to name drop and embellish stories. I’d just quietly cringe as she lied her ass off. Would make plans and cancel at the last minute when she got a better offer, like my time didn’t matter. I wanted to ghost for years and just finally did it. I have much better friends now and…

I mean “hope I don’t offend anyone” doesn’t really mean much when you then go on to characterize all people with several different disorders as impossible to have lasting healthy friendships with. Making sweeping generalizations about people who share a single trait in common is the definition of prejudice. That’s…

This is why I hate people and prefer to hide inside my house with my dogs and my internet.

That’s absolutely insane. I’m so sorry you’re dealing with such crap. I hope you do find those better people soon.

Dear gods, is this perfect timing. This past summer, my best friend suddenly became hostile and unfriendly; no warning, no explanation, no anything. Then I found out that she had been excluding me from activities we used to do with two other gfs, and then posting their fun on Facebook for me to see. This put the other…

“had to do with the fact that I didn’t always carry my cell phone”

Yeah I couldn’t BELIEVE she published the text (but was also kinda relieved because I’m a bad person and wanted to know what it said). It seems the author is perfectly fine airing other people’s personal insecurities and histories and stories. Even if her husband said that is was ok, did he ok the backstory behind it…

I disagree. Sometimes, you don’t realize how toxic a person was for you until you get some time and distance. 25 years ago, one of my best friends and I had a massive falling out. She cut contact with me - because SHE had done something awful and then she got upset that I dared to be angry about the thing she did.

Recovering addicts can lash out horribly at others. They turn their self-hating outwards. At least, that’s what I’ve seen from the addicts in my life. They may not be using, but the issues they have are still there.

Same here. I am one of those people who used to hold onto toxic relationships because I thought a good friend stays with it even during the tough times. And my ex-friend really did go through so tough times and that’s part of what we bonded over. But she when she went away to college (really far away), all she wanted…

This is prejudiced and untrue. You should re-examine your attitudes about mental illness. Also, maybe consider the fact that people with those disorders use the internet too, and are likely to see comments like this and feel even more deflated and hopeless than they already do.

I support you in this. I think I’m in the process of ghosting my best friend of 20 years, even though I am anti-ghosting. There are things that I just can’t deal with any more. I don’t feel like she respects my time or me as a person. I feel like she only calls me when she is stuck in traffic. She has a history about…

Yikes!

You are the only commenter saying the right thing. This story is too personal, and now at least alerts the rest of her “friends” to watch what they say lest she publish personal things about them too.

Her friend might have been an idiot, as is my opinion of namaste type people, but this author was cool with…

Seriously, it’s such BS. I’m all for positive thinking and visualizing good things in your life, but they lost me when they said that the people who were killed during the Holocaust didn’t REALLY in their heart of hearts want to survive. Victim blaming much?

Sorry about your shitty ex-friend and your illness. Hope you’re feeling okay!

Yeah, the fact that her response to her spiritual breakthrough and dying friendship was to immediately pitch the story to Jezebel makes me think she is not being her best self in this moment.

I think the spiritual part may have been learning to treat herself as a friend and recognizing the toxicity of failing friendship and the personal growth of that. That said, I agree that it seemed inconsequential.

That’s a really good point. Hopefully the author changed some identifying details.

But, people must know you and, by extension, know her. Now they know personal things about her. Now I know personal things about her because you chose this platform to share them.

My ‘spiritual’ friend dumped me when I got chronically ill. Because it says so in The Secret, you shouldn’t consort with sick people because it will attract more sickness. Some spiritual people are sick in the head. Namaste cuntface!