I seriously don't know how HS kids do it (High School Schweeps included). I had swim practice every morning at 5:30. My first class started at 7:30. I never had a lunch or a study hall period, I just went straight through until 2:50. And then I had swim practice from 3:30 to 6. Every fucking day, even in the…

And there's nothing to suggest that it was specifically the maternity leave ask that caused them to rescind the offer. And men do negotiate for paternity leave.

The thing about negotiating, though, is while you assume the other side will simply offer a counter-offer, they always have the right to walk away. The same way a potential employee can walk away if they don't offer the right salary - without being given the opportunity to match what the employee wants. The…

I never said that these requests aren't normal. I didn't make any judgments on the requests. If you honestly think it's not unusual for candidates to delay their start date for an entire year, I'll just take your word for it with a HUGE sigh and grain of salt. Let's assume they're not-unusual. They still,…

No, I don't work in academia, but my career is not outside the sphere of "negotiating employment contracts for a living" - it's not unusual to have an employer walk away when someone has a list of requests that are outside the realm of what a company is willing to offer, especially if they have a number of other…

Exactly. That happens all the time in business - you have to be careful when you negotiate because people can walk away if they don't like the way it's going. Of course it's going to happen in academia, too.

Wow, what a lot of assumptions you have! Why are you assuming that someone who doesn't ask for extra perks is "probably not as good a candidate." Or "mediocre." Please. Oh, and now you're guessing he's a young, male, unpulished, frugal teacher with crappy student feedback. You're making these assumptions so this…

It's not a blanket refusal to negotiate - it IS, though, inferring something about a person based on what multiple things they negotiate for. If it was just a request for an increase in pay without anything else, and they turned around and said "Ohhh, you're not a good fit..." - THAT would be curious. But it's…

You can't really say this is because she's a woman. It's entirely possible the culture is "junior professors don't speak up" - but there's nothing to suggest it's because she's a woman.

I didn't say she demanded anything. I said she asked for a raise and four other perks. The perks she asked for could reflect a different kind of expectation for the position than the school had in mind.

This is scary, but - to be fair -she didn't lose a job offer because she asked for a raise. She lost a job offer after asking for a raise and 4 other perks. I don't think it was the raise ask that made the college think she wasn't a right fit for the culture.

Oh, man, I have a friend, a VERY GOOD FRIEND, a bridesmaid, I am the godmother to her daughter. And I absolutely hate her social media presence. Constantly making passive aggressive, attention-seeking status messages, self-congratulatory announcements about every good deed she ever does, public displays of affection…

Can we PLEASE talk about how he has a "TM" after his name???

If I married my college boyfriend, let me tell you, I would be in a very, very, very different place right now. Shockingly, I focused on school and my career during my 20s and somehow found a husband who would marry my withered uterus at the vile age of 29, after I've established a career that has afforded us many…

Skin cancer actually doesn't appear where you have sun exposure. Sun exposure increases the likelihood of getting skin cancer, period, not just on your tanned parts. I wish I would have known this when I literally put sun screen only on my moles, thinking that if they were SPF-ed, they wouldn't mutate. Wrong! Now…

Hillary is the best. I selfishly want her to announce ASAP so I can apply to work for her campaign.

And, sometimes, just because you're a victim doesn't been you've been absolved from all responsibility.

Oh my gosh, two years of that (and it sounds like it's still affecting you) - that sounds so terrible. Thank you so much for sharing! I just reread my question and I think it sounded a little more hostile that I intended it, thank you for giving me the benefit of the doubt!!

Can you explain how you go about your life with a sitting disability?

We're flipping the table because that socialist paradise has jobs that let you leave the office at 5pm, right?