I actually think the change in plans was to give us that brief second where he had been rejected, and was okay. He was too afraid to ask Summer out because he put her so totally on a pedestal, but he asked this girl out and that was in. The worst case scenario happened and he was fine. The fact that he asked her out…

I think that the fact that they met by applying for the same job showed that they were more on the same level, not so much her on a pedestal. He’s a little grumpy with her, thus dispelling the ‘just be the nicest guy ever with no backbone’ approach that he took with Summer and he also actually asks her out, which was…

I think that’s kind of why it’s a good film. When I first saw it before I really got into feminism I thought she was a cold, emotionless robot. Although I still found his character unattractive. And then I slowly started to realise that we’re not given her viewpoint at any point, and that is the point! All we get is…

I bloody love 500DOS. Why? Do people not like that film? I don’t see that it’s problematic (I can see that Garden State might be, but as really the first modern appearance of this trope you couldn’t really call it a trope at that point, she was a more interesting character than most love interests, I thought)

I have actually heard of this before, maybe she knew that she’d done something partially wrong and didn’t want the fight to escalate further by contradicting it so she went along with it thinking that it would blow over.

I have had this exact scenario countless times but fortunately for me it’s never been taken seriously.

Your lover. :-D

Honestly, I don’t think you should worry; no proposal should be an absolute, unconsidered, out of thin air surprise. I think most people in solid relationships will have discussed the concept to make sure they’re on the same page and so as not to put the other in an awkward position before any actual proposing is done.

I think for a writer name it’s supposed to be your middle name and the road you lived on. Porn star name is your first pet’s name and mother’s maiden name.

This is a great story. It should be a film.

‘I was REALLY not in the mood for his shit that day, because I had learned the day before that Geri Haliwell had left the Spice Girls.’

ADORABLE

Hypocrisy is literally what the phrase ‘the pot calling the kettle black’ means. To accuse someone of doing or being something that you yourself are or do; in this case, I presume you meant that I pretend to have loftier ideals than I actually do and judge others for not sharing them. So for your statement to be…

Firstly, you don’t know enough about me to accuse me of hypocrisy, so don’t. Secondly, I did twice specify that my beef is (mostly) with women who have been told that this is harmful behaviour and persist anyway. I’m not assuming anything about all women, and I absolutely believe that sexism should be fought at the…

If it has genuinely never been pointed out to an adult woman that this is sexist hogwash, then I have some sympathy, although limited because it really should have occurred to her by now. But it’s infinitely more often the case that it’s used as ‘well that’s how I was raised so I’m not changing even though I’m…

I’ve actually never regretted doing it too soon but definitely regretted waiting. Usually because of bad sex and that by that time I’m emotionally invested and have to make an effort to fix it when actually, ugh, get your shit together.

Social conditioning is indeed bullshit, but refusing to blame full grown adults who don’t have the self awareness to question their biases is even smellier bullshit.

But all the same arguments can be made if you reverse genders and pay for the whole thing yourself.

Of what?

Yeah, I don’t like to be pernickety about it-but things like you get this round and I’ll get the next are preferable. The whole concept of men paying for a date with me makes me so uncomfortable. Once I ghosted on a guy because he paid the whole tab while I was in the loo, without asking me.