Absolutely, and inverse is naturally true too, right: nice, likeable people can be villainous to others they find expendable. You see that so much with people reconciling their problematic family members who are complicit apologists for so many bad things going on right now. And morally reprehensible people are also…

If people have a strong interest in doubting an accusation, sure. But I’m not sure it’s most people. Part of what’s complicated is that for many people, they can see it happening—it’s not something limited to strangers and that’s the hard part.

It is very possible to be friends with people who are accused of or have done bad things—whether that’s an alleged or actual crime, complicity with white supremacy and/or misogyny, being a general narcissist asshole, etc. and so on. It seems like she said the bare minimum while acknowledging that she hopes it works…

As stated by you, is it mindblowing, though? This happens all the time in the criminal justice system. Like everyday. And on an institutional level for less than what’s being alleged here. However this ends up, I hope this general frustration translates to some empathy for folks who don’t have resources or high…

Questioning a victim isn’t really the issue, though. It’s about people grappling with one’s boundaries for how humans are complex, multifaceted individuals. You don’t have to downplay a victim’s word to be supportive in whatever ways seem right to someone under investigation for wrong-doing. You can hold someone…

I’ve only done day trips to the Canadian side so I’ve never explored the town proper. I’d love to go in the winter or do some hiking on the American side in the summer at some point.

This is true, but only in September when pants, a light cardigan, or a fashionable blazer is available. In July, it’s 82 with a breeze.

But, the people who’ve worked with him also seem to believe he’s a decent guy who reads broadly and who thinks carefully about his positions.

“I don’t think he sees himself as an ideologue in any way.

Thumbs up! I run a monthly book club and I do a short fiction session a couple times a year (I try to pace out a mix of novels, novellas, graphic novels, non-fiction, etc. to keep it fresh). I will say that the better conversations require more work on my end to choose stories that have some theme or link that the…

“Not necessarily something you would’ve thought of when you think of this section of town.”

You may have just gone too far...

Right! I hate when people spoil TV/movie info just to be smug about knowing something from having read the book. It happens all the time with The Walking Dead.

It’s totally meaningless too. I didn’t have a TV for like 5 years and I don’t watch that much TV now. But that doesn’t stop me from knowing everything about TV because I’m so plugged into pop culture. It really isn’t anything special.

No one is more smug (smugger?) than a geek citing source material.

2. People who walk slowly through crosswalks...on purpose

I think what can frustrate people is the use of these numbers like the percentages are true across the board.

Spot on title for this. On the one hand, RIP to all the useful materials that were wasted in the creation of these hacks (please tell me someone made a frittata out of those eggs and is dipping their toothbrush into a plastic bag full of loose toothpaste to brush their teeth).

Sugar, milk, and butter in grits is one of the tastiest breakfast items invented—in the tradition of rice pudding or porridge or oatmeal. That said, I like grits prepared in pretty much every form. Eating standalone plain grits with salt and pepper (as opposed to it being a base for another disk) seems like a waste of…

Absolutely. I was very young when I finally told my mother about the serious sexual assault I experienced by someone close to the family. She was decisive and relentless—through reporting to the police, all the interviews and the court hearings and therapy, through my crippling fear and other people’s judgement. I…