I’m sorry you had to go through this. Unfortunately, this is a true example of an unplanned pregnancy. I wish you the best with your reproductive (an non) future. <3

Agree. I have the partner (yay!) and am having to factor into my residency rank list how “family friendly” programs are. Like, WTF? Why do I have to choose between one that might serve my educational goals better vs. one that will be supportive of me if I want to decide to start a family in my mid-30s? (‘Cause I’d…

Not trying to label emotions (unfair, not okay), but from a biological standpoint “not preventing” pregnancy is planning a pregnancy. Thus, if someone has made a choice to not use contraception, maybe their emotional decision has not been made but the biological decision has been. Because you and your husband have…

*applause*

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LOL. Love the metaphor.

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“say they weren’t trying but they weren’t trying not too” = planning on getting pregnant. Sex in a heterosexual relationship at reproductive age will result in pregnancy. Obviously, there are medical exceptions to that statement, but I think reframing sex without contraception as “planning” on an eventual pregnancy…

Sadly, I agree with you. Many of the young women we see in clinic view the “accidental” (on purpose) baby as the norm, because it provides a somewhat reliable life plan (maybe “familiar” is a better term, as most of their peers and mom’s are in similar situations). Unfortunately, a teen or young pregnancy isn’t seen…

I agree. In the OB world we say you are planning on a pregnancy unless you are actively preventing one; how can you be surprised that your body does exactly what it is evolutionarily programed to do? For example, an unplanned pregnancy is one of the 0.01% of pregnancies that occur when properly using OCPs (not the…

I think you have the logical approach and are correct. Personally, I have encountered so many friends, patients, and family members that think otherwise: that somehow a pregnancy that occurs when they aren’t using contraception (or using it correctly) is an “accident.” In the OB world we say you are planning on a…

Ha, yes. Exactly this. If you or your partner don’t know what you want, you should be using contraception, full stop.

I think that women in fields dominated by men have more pressure on them when it comes to pregnancy timing. Many men I encounter in the medical field still have this idea of pregnant/maternity leave coworkers as being less hard-working, pawning responsibilities off on the ‘dedicated’ men while they lounge around…

Great explanation. I’m a med student planning on starting Ob/Gyn residency next summer and one of my biggest pet peeves is when people say the pregnancy was an “accident” (this includes my own brother and SIL) when they are of reproductive age and not using any form of contraception. Unless you are correctly using…

It will be great! I have lived alone (mostly) since finishing college. It was scary at first, but now I LOVE it! When I did have to temporarily move in with other humans it was such a bummer that I couldn’t walk around -sans-trousers all the time. Weirdly, living alone has made me more social, in that I can’t…

Haven’t made it to my costume yet, but my pup (her first doggie Halloween!) is going to be Pizza Rat.

like my momma always told me, “if he will leave another woman for you, he will one day leave you for another woman.”

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