I've been kicking around the idea of getting a second dog for a while, and today I found out that my dog's breeder has a new litter! I thought they were done breeding because it's been a long time, but now I'm obsessed with the idea of getting one of the puppies. The dad (standard poodle) is the same dad as my dog's…

How awful. I know it's not a popular opinion but I just do not like pit breeds because they're super popular in my area among assholes. At least 50% of the dogs in the local shelter are pit breeds, which makes it hard to find a shelter dog to adopt because no way am I taking on a pit who had a crappy prior owner who…

I'm at my sister's and away from my own sweet pup, but my puppy niece is my obsession right now.

Same. I tried SO HARD to see the blue and black and just couldn't, despite showing the exact same picture on the same device to my sister and having her proclaim it definitely black and blue. Then I read the Wired article, squinted, saw the black and blue, and now it's all I can see without squinting.

All I could see for two hours was white and gold but now all I can see is black and blue.

Categorizing the response as "outrage" strikes me as akin to gaslighting. The problems with her statement were simple pointed out in a reasonable manner. I was pretty involved in the commentary on this site last night, and if anyone was expressing outrage, it was the people who took issue with the fact that anyone…

I'm a white feminist and this has been the most eye-opening experience on White Feminists. My comments weren't even directed at the lack of intersectionality in the speech, but I definitely got a big o' helping of "No, you are wrong and stupid to think that way about the speech, let me explain to you how you should…

I didn't love the speech for various reasons and I've been called stupid, a "waste of space," and a "toxic fucking asshole" in the comments. So, lots of great people commenting here. *sarcasm*

So true, and oddly enough it was this very thread that made me (a white feminist) see that more clearly. As a childless woman, I took issue with Arquette's "to all the women who have given birth" qualifier, and people on here are calling me a "waste of space" and an idiot who missed the point. I get the desire to…

She's starting a conversation about a legitimate issue, she's not "reaching" for anything.

Wow, a "waste of space" and a "toxic fucking asshat?" Jesus.

I don't think she meant it as a "fuck you," either. But I do think that she unconsciously reiterated how value is often placed on women because of their childbearing role and not because of their personal autonomy. But no one is perfect, especially in emotional moments. I should have phrased it more in that manner…

Honestly the speech didn't make a lot of sense if you pay attention. But as someone pointed out, alcohol probably did affect her word choices.

In retrospect, she was probably buzzed, so I admit, I shouldn't be too hard on her phrasing.

I agree. I didn't mean my comment to be a complete dismissal of her cry for equal pay, just a comment on how we often continue to promote the importance of women in terms of their childbearing role. I think even the best intentioned of us should be aware of that.

I got her point, thanks. But I don't think I'm out of line, on a feminist website, by pointing out that she didn't have to phrase it in a way that only reinforces that annoying justification for women's equality by reducing women to their childbearing role. I don't think she meant it that way, but I do think it's…

That's probably how she meant it, but I hate that rationale. You should respect women because a woman gave birth to you, a man? No. You should respect women because they are human beings.

Blow it out my ass because I have a problem with saying women deserve equal pay because they're mothers? With implying that women's worth comes from childbearing and not from their status as autonomous human beings? Okay.

Well that's basically saying that women's worth comes from the fact that they give birth, so yeah, I am going to shit on her for her shitty phrasing.

"To every woman who hasn't given birth, here's another reminder that you don't matter!"