Of course I don't mind a guys response. He's an old boy friend, so not a problem. And yes, there were definitely some issue at play that had nothing to do with me. Thank you for all the feedback; they're definitely things that'll be looked at. The reason I crowd-sourced is because all of his negative issues have led…

Not that I know of, I use latex often at work so I doubt that's the problem. (That sounds like an odd profession; latex gloves)

Thanks! The kegels are a legacy of an old medical condition. It never occurred to me it could be causing problems now!

Yeah, they seem to actually be earnestly defending their position, so I thought maybe they just had a combative style of writing but obviously just being combative is their aim and I don't play those games.

Yeah, I checked out of the conversation... Probably the best troll I've encountered in all my years, they're almost like a person who actually believes they're right, which is a bit scary..

See you are completely misrepresenting everything I say. Again. Which seems to be something you do.

It really depends on where you are and who you are. Legally, it's getting better, and for individuals. But as a whole, no, the country is too comfortable with overt racial stereotypes and discrimination.

Yeah, I would definitely say we are not a kind people to our Indigenous, New Zealand definitely has us beat. I work with indigenous people, have for years, and grew up in a northern town. Moving to the city for university, I have heard the most vile things said. Tonight I just wanted to ask some questions about why we…

So I'm starting to think you are being purposely confrontational when there's really no cause to be. Not one in this whole discussion have I stated a blanket definition for cultural appropriation, no matter how many times I don't, and you then try and twist my words or tell me what I'm saying, I won't? Wanna know why?…

I obviously didn't give an expanded enough telling of the story. No ones trying to ban anyone from playing the didgeridoo, the Nicole Kidman thing worried many elders, who contacted her, apparently there are rituals to try to appease the spirits she could have disturbed. It's not a law, or even tribal law, it is just…

Thankyou! I've realised a large part of the problems was probably me forever trying ex bf giving me relaxing massages before hand so I would relax enough to have intercourse... with warm oil... So them the condom breaks, which stresses me, causing me to clench, which pulls the next condom off, which means I can't…

Hmm, I haven't tried one, I've used dildo shaped objects before, but I wasn't really co ordinated enough for the whole shebang. It's like there's parts of me that have normal feeling and parts that are so numb its like touching your own arm when its dead, you sorta feel the pressure, but not really. I think that will…

Me too about the respect thing! Indigenous Australians have formed a large, media savvy and politically active, while still being diverse, community. It helps that the government after a few disastrous projects, is far more willing to get social scientists and indigenous leaders into the planning and implementation…

I don't know why everyone's assuming I'm finger wagging about the didgeridoos? Nowhere in my post did I state an opinion to or for non-indigenous people or women using them, all I did was offer up a factoid about an awkward situation caused by cultural differences.

Oh wow, erasure is the most heartbreaking thing I think we can do as a species :( Just completely invalidating someones lived experience is like telling them they're worthless.

I'm not sure if maybe you're not understanding that I'm talking about a specific type of appropriation that happens in Australia. Yes there is cultural crossovers and getting inspiration from anothers culture. But indigenous art is a series of dots and lines done in particular patterns that forms a language of sorts…

First I'm glad there's at least acknowledgment. Second, it sucks that there is still racism. There is so much in Australia too it makes me ashamed of my own country sometimes. But see, I'm a red head, so I have so soul, so I can't feel shame (actual quote from racist I was arguing with). We aren't JUST racist, we are…

Ah yes, I've been following that in the Gawkerverse, I thought once people realised there were protests they'd get rid of it, but my googling led me to believe that aboriginal Americans are a very small minority, without a large enough voice and no legal standing :(

Oh ok, everyone s mentioned that oil is a no no. Soooo, all those back rubs to calm me down followed by sex probably weren't the best idea...?

Thank you so much! Yes, my next appointment is actually in 8 hours, that's why when I saw the post I thought it might be my last chance to crowd source ideas before facing the awkwardness again.