I think a lot of people have forgotten what it was like to be 12, 13, 14 especially, and that girls that age need parents policing their outfits. Or maybe every didn't have the draw to oversexualized clothes/behavior that I did as a (pre)teen. Quite frankly there was a period of my life that I probably would have worn…

Kinda, yeah.

The incomes of the people in my family are drastically different from one section to the next. My parents are dependent on government aid, and I also have an aunt and uncle who are able to afford living (and raising a child) in Manhattan, and are professional musicians. Just because one branch of a family tree is…

... Mandii?

Yep, mine too. He's just playin'!

My male open-mouth breathes all the time, usually if he gets a little too worked up playing with his sister or his toys. And by toys I mean any one of the myriad of things that the cats decide are toys.

Ha, yeah I get the urge to do that too. Though I don't know if my first consensual time is much better- to my friend's pimp when we were 17? I don't really know exactly when my sex life stopped being tragic.

I was under the impression that Everybody lost their virginity in high school, lol.

That's actually the first good point I've read against, in my opinion.

That may be the case, in which case that would be a bad sign. The problem is there's not enough details to really read their specific state of mind accurately, in my opinion. There very well could be issues of alcoholism in the picture. However if that's the case, why are people recommending the person drink at home?

Of course, and I'm not saying that you shouldn't do that- pets are a responsibility too. And I get necessary vs unnecessary risk, but one activity takes you away from your home, and the other takes you to a different part in the same building. My point is that for people who insist that the problem isn't the alcohol…

I mean, I guess nothing bad can come from being too cautious, but why couldn't you do that? As pointed out, a lot of people have babies in huge houses and probably stray much further away from their kid than you can between the two apts.

But wouldn't going to a downstairs bar for a beer be safer than leaving to walk the dogs? I mean, at least you're still in the same physical structure. Just my observation, but those guidelines seem less about safety and more about social construct as far as what's appropriate.

I thought about the noise level too, but if you go on, say, a Tuesday at 4 pm when the bar is quiet I think it should be ok? But definitely no Friday or Saturday nights.

I could absolutely see myself doing this, if my husband and I lived above a bar, but also I'm from Milwaukee so maybe that has something to do with it, hah.

Yeah but in this case they're more considering going downstairs to have a beer.

Nothing. Absolutely nothing.

Thank you for taking the time to write this, it helped a lot. I'm becoming increasingly aware lately about the racial/queer/etc issues in the feminist movement, and though I feel slightly embarrassed that I'm not aware of these thing already, I guess that's a sign that my vantage point is expanding?

Oh man I never thought of that to get rid of a guy!

I've taken one in secret, because I was actually concerned that pregnancy was a possibility, and didn't want to worry the guy that I'd been dating for 4 months unless I knew for sure. Also keep in mind I was one of those "OMG I'm 3 days late what if I'm PREGNANT!?" girls. Nowadays I don't even really keep track. But I…