Oh, nice! I’ve only been to Vancouver once, about 10 years ago, and spent most of my time downtown (since I was staying in a hostel and wasn’t old enough yet to rent a car), but it was lovely.

We definitely have discussed, a couple of times, where the trust issues come from, so at least it’s not a thing I’m sitting on. (I feel you on being everyone’s sounding board though, heh. It can be... a lot.) I have learned he’s just not dependable in the way that I am, and that’s just a thing I have to accept and…

I mean, I already did, and did so last night, so no issue there. Can’t undo engaging that was already done, though!

Thank you, Zellie. All I can say is that I appreciate you as a smart, compassionate commenter in general and that everything you wrote in this particular comment rings true with me.

I mean, I know I’m gonna have a chunk of time tonight where I’m bored at work, why not go dig? When I find them, I will definitely come back and link you!

Ooh, damn. I will have to go digging! I’m pretty sure both would’ve ended up in one post, because I think both were winners, even if they aren’t from the same years...

Thank you! Granted, we didn’t start with a huge print run or anything -- we’re small time, and there’d be no point, for several reasons -- but still, it feels like progress!

It took me so, so long to accept that all I needed to know was how our interactions made me feel - drained, bewildered, annoyed - in order to make a decision. I had for so long focused on my friend’s limits instead of my boundaries, if that makes sense?

Aww, how sweet! My first cat, over 20 years ago now (damn) was a big beast cat, too! Again, no fat, just a big, big boy who could totally win play-fights with our 60-70lb golden retriever. He was such a chiller. I still miss him, too.

Oh yes, it most certainly is, heh. Good thing they’re so cute. ;)

So cuuute!

I’m so sorry you had to go through that. :( Really I am, it sounds like an incredibly difficult thing to do, especially after such a long friendship.

I know, I’m pissed I didn’t recognize it was a troll with the first comment! Otherwise, trust me, I would’ve. Gave too much benefit of the doubt for a couple comments too many. Lesson for next time!

Indeed, and it’s very good advice (and good to let those who don’t know in on it, of course). Thank you for that. :)

Nah, books! (lol, though) Which, to be fair, used to a NY-only thing, but that was maybe 10+ years ago. It’s spread significantly to LA (and Chicago, too). Lots of bookstores and indie presses out here (including mine).

I know, and it’s my own fault for not listening to my instincts with the first (relatively lesser) strange comment I got from this one. I really need to be better about moving into “straight up ignore” mode once the trolling behavior becomes that obvious!

I hadn’t thought of that (probably because it’s been too gross/hot lately to even think about blankets), but I’ll give that a try!

It really is, especially now that I see this current iteration is just yelling even more abusive shit at no one down there, and bringing up Russia for some reason? Talk about bonkers. I guess it pisses them off once you realize they’re nuts and just quit responding.

Was that the one where someone appears and like, charges at her, and she runs for her car? Gahh!

He is totally spoiled, but my roommate and I do enjoy spoiling him (cats do always find out how to get their way, don’t they?), so no one minds. He’s a good boy, besides, so at least we’re not rewarding bad behavior. I was so glad he was already good about using scratching posts, not extending claws when batting at…