People are talking about the way nepotism works/manifests, not its definition. Exactly as you are with class. How you can’t see they hypocrisy in this is fascinating.

I didn’t think you were trying to silence me, and wasn’t talking only about your comment. It was a general statement.

I did read them. You’re dismissing other demographic factors people think impact nepotism, and telling them it’s all about personal favoritism, and simultaneously arguing it IS impacted by the demographic indicators that apply to you.

But I thought demographics weren’t a factor, and it was all about personal favoritism?

That’s not what people are arguing, though. Nobody said nepotism is *inherently* about whiteness. Privilege and wealth being mostly in white hands shapes the racial component of nepotism as people in this society currently experience it. Can’t people examine that and acknowledge it without a bunch of people being all,…

I think you’re being intentionally obtuse. If you meant what you say about nepotism being entirely about personal favoritism and not having broader implications based on factors like race and gender, you wouldn’t have bothered to bring up its ties to socioeconomic status, either.

Nah, it’s old white dudes looking out for young white dudes. The guys in their 30s and 40s, though? Haven’t exactly been scrambling to prove to those younger than them that it will be different this time around.

You were legitimately wondering what other people would pick? I have a hard time believing that, given that you seem pretty sure about “human nature.” Still doesn’t explain thinking that question is the most important point about this very complex issue, regardless.

We’re talking about this culture, its history, and how nepotism functions here, though. Nobody who is disagreeing with you actually claimed that it’s the same in other places.

Yeah, this concept has already occurred to other people, and they’re thinking beyond it because the problem is more complicated than simple, individual anecdotes. You don’t have a “gotcha,” you’re just behind.

As a white woman who grew up lower middle class, I disagree. You’re comparing yourself to wealthy people of other races, and rendering invisible the poor people and women of color whose poverty is augmented by not having whiteness/maleness at their disposal.

This implies that the standards for “qualified” are the same for everyone, though. We don’t judge everyone equally—people of color, women, etc. have to work harder in the first place to be seen as capable. So they’re not in the same position as a “qualified” white person/dude/white dude/whatever, because that person…

I think he’s probably trying to fit in with hipster jerks who ARE his age. Hating on New Jersey is kind of passe with the kids these days.

The internet is absolutely a net positive for the world/people, but it does expose and augment the difference in people’s critical thinking skills and limitations in terms of how much information they can process, I think.

Here’s the thing, though. There is no way, if this person has access to the internet and engages in modern American society, that he didn’t see at least some evidence to the contrary. Some piece of information that should have planted enough of a seed of doubt to give him pause. He’s not a person lacking access to…