Yes.

Yeah, it took me the longest time to get used to my (now) husband's forms of affection. Which mostly involve poking me and making weird sounds at me, or acting like a spoiled brat when he wanted affection.

Idk, it took a full two years for my bf/husband to realize that wanting to know where the hell he was when he was hours late to get home or some goddamn notice when you cancel plans on me (Night before our planned trip to Chicago, I ask him if he was packed and ready. Replies with "oh, I forgot, I have to go to my…

You asked if she really considered that message to be demeaning, which she obviously does. You're not really asking her if she feels that; you're questioning her opinions, which is kind of shitty.

That is super-shitty in that case. But yeah, on the other hand, at least you know how his family is before you're married in?

On the other hand, you talk as if she had a "choice" to be obese or not, that it was something she did to you guys.

I don't think you know the meaning of "every" ^^

Born in China, moved to the US when I was 5.

This. Just like my husband has no issue when I complain about men who do X or having to deal with Y as a woman because he knows it's not about him, most white people I know have no issues with discussions of racism.

Yeah, grade A doucebag says something that resonates with a few people and then they defend him in everything he says, to the point of trampling the voices of those WoC who don't agree with him.

I think he was on-point for a lot of stuff.

How do you know she doesn't think his comments are BS in and of their own merit? :P

That's really fucking condescending.

"Mother" is not insulting at all.

I was avoiding commenting on this thread up to this point, but she's not the only one who found your first statement... problematic, to say the least.

Huh. All the Asian immigrants I know make a distinction between born in the US and born in Asia; ie first gen exclusively refers to people NOT born here, and then the number goes up with each successive generation. I'm first gen, but my sister and brother are considered second gen.

If she was born here, that makes her second gen.

Yes. I'm an Asian living in the US, get similar shit a lot, and do consider it to be racist and demeaning. Harassment? Mostly not, though sometimes it does cross the line into harassment.

Yes, actually. Kink.com being a good example.

Hmmm yeah, I married that asshole.