Isn't this the approach that Elizabeth Smart told us all about? The one that made her feel dirty and spoiled for being a kidnapped and raped child? She made it clear that this type of "education" made her trauma even worse .

Is this something to bat an eye at? I didn't at all so, no, not too far!

no wonder some light-skinned black people act "hood" or "street"... their blackness is always being questioned...

They're threatened by black female sexuality. It's much more offensive to them. If Beyonce weren't a black women, this conversation would've ended a week after the album came out.

I think our culture reinforces a dichotomy for women when it comes to intelligence and sexuality. It tells girls that you can either be a brainless "sex idiot" or a ball-busting un-sexy go getter. The media reinforces the idea that, for women, stupid is sexy, and intelligence and ambition is a threat and turn-off to…

Right. The song "Blow" which is about a woman being orally serviced by her husband (with no allusion to reciprocation) is totally not about a woman who takes her own cues on what's sexy and only what her husband wants...

Now I see where you're going, though I still disagree. You're introducing motive. These women's motives may be different but they also may be the same. As someone above mentioned, I think Madonna really was about performance, audience reaction, self-worth. I think Beyoncé is much less about audience reaction and more…

If you think that's the only picture of her sexualized, you don't know Madonna at all. I mean not even a little. There are litterally hundreds, mayhaps thousands of pictures of her in like poses. Maybe you just aren't old enough. I could Google it for you but I"m sure you know how Google works. Look for Madonna late…

I'm beyond tired of people obsessing over women being role models as opposed to men. It's much easier for men to run amok with little to no consequences but god forbid you're a woman who expresses interest in sex. We can't have that. We can't have young girls thinking that sex is enjoyable.

Granderson and O'Reilly are pissed because Beyoncé isn't talking about sexing up her man in a demure, non-threatening kind of way.

Doesn't this whole Beyonce being sexual controversy point out the disingenuousness of the abstinence/wait until marriage crowd? Beyonce is singing about being sexual WITH HER HUSBAND and is still taking heat for doing so from conservatives. It goes to show that they're full of shit when they say they want sex to be…

"If she truly wants to be kid-friendly, she should consider leaving the foreplay in the bedroom because trying to have it both ways makes parenting for some harder than it should be."

I think the reason behind the inequality is twofold: part of it is the male gaze, but part of it is also because many women find such 'forbidden' costumes, dance moves, and sexual display sexually liberating because we all grow up being told that female sexual 'immodesty' is bad and transgressive. It's a Forbidden…

Beyonce doesn't need to be sexualized to sell records at this point in her career. If she had had a problem with the Drunk in Love video, she certainly could have had its concept changed. At this point, Beyonce is deciding for herself how she wants to present her image. Criticizing her raciness under the guise that…

However, the video is just way way too sexual for no reason.

It's sexual for a reason: she sees herself as a sexual person and she is expressing that to her husband. She is a married woman who enjoys sex and being sexy for her partner. I'm more than okay with that. I'm a married woman and I think that video is hot as hell and pretty damned excellent. It wouldn't matter to me if…

In addition to BitchPunt's response, I think the content of the song - a woman's exploration of her sexuality with her partner/questioning the power and influence of that sexuality/how she and he both want it to be - is a very real question that real women and real couples go through. It's a totally valid topic that…

Why does Beyonce need a reason to be sexual? Who are you to determine what is 'too sexual'? By what standard are you measuring that by?
Just because you're uncomfortable with sexuality, doesn't mean others have to abide by that kind of puritanical thinking. Beyonce is comfortable expressing her sexuality as an artist.…

Who gets to make the decision about when a female pop star is too sexual? Your point might be well taken if we were talking about some young, emerging pop star we had reason to believe was being exploited into sexualizing herself beyond what she wanted to do. But we're not. We're talking about a very wealthy, very…