It seems to be common sense. I am not made of stone—if my husband came to me and said “I’m not attracted to you any more, but I want to still live together and co-parent,” I would be sad. But then I would know, and I would be able to make an informed decision about what happens next, what is best for our child, etc. I…

You’re really a piece of work. I don’t even see where she said you’re defending monogamy.
Leaps everywhere!

Well that zero person was right, I am going to agree to disagree and move on.

Her point is that just because a doctor is tall, it doesn’t mean all doctors are tall. I don’t really view what you said as you trying to assert a logical conclusion and I believe that’s the disconnect. I took it to mean you were saying that with the significant number of people on that site, there are probably a lot…

Let’s try to clear this up even if the end result is we agree to disagree. I do not care if I am right or wrong, I am not trying to die on a hill for a quick comment I made and to which you seem to have taken great personal offense.

This is the post in question
“Plenty of people are very happy in monogamous…

Agreed, completely. I’ve been really surprised by the vehemence over the hack here at Gawker.

THIS! While some of the advice he gives (The price of admission) he is really problematic. I guess the whole a broken clock is right twice a day is very accurate in regards to him.

This social construct we’ve created is really destructive. The puritanical values that the general population seems to claim to embrace, really don’t mesh well with reality.

It’s too bad that open marriages aren’t more accepted. Why people care what anyone else thinks of their marriage is silly. If people spent less time worrying about what other people are doing, this would be a much better world. It isn’t your relationship.

The disconnect here is that you’re arguing the point as though the opposition is arguing that cheating is “good” or “ok”...that isn’t the argument at all.

I'm genuinely surprised by the reaction the OP is getting this is truly disappointing.

i think the assumption that everyone that signed up on that site cheated is wrong i think you made some assumptions. sometimes people say what they mean but i have no dog in this fight you can both feel like youre right

I mean, I think analyzing the reasons for human behavior rather than simply, or exclusively, qualifying that behavior is a big part of liberal/progressive thought and values—it’s crucial. When someone steals, you don’t just chop of their hands and go about your day, you analyze and address the circumstances which…

fwiw i know your a regular on here but it does seem that you either misunderstood or you’re being obtuse.

That’s not the part I took issue with, it’s the reflexive vilification without an exploration of the circumstances that lead a person to make a particular decision.

Regardless of what Dan Savage thinks, you are completely missing the point here. The point isn’t that the cheating is political in some way, it’s that most people exist within social constructs that have the potential to make it really difficult to be honest with themselves, let alone those around you. Immediately…

I have ONLY dismissed you and upthread I said I did.
So if you’re responding to what I actually said, please show me where I said everyone or where I mentioned anything about cheating.

I said it was a waste of our time to continue since you kept saying I was saying things I didn’t. I never said everyone and I never even mentioned cheating. Both of your responses to me, were filled with things I didn’t say. I only wrote a few sentences and I didn’t use big words. If you want to discuss the actual…

From what I gathered, she wasn’t saying people need to be accepting of cheating. She was saying people need to be more accepting of different types of relationships so they option to cheat was taken away. Also, she was saying in that instance those who don’t want monogamy could choose a different path, like polyamory…

Right. I feel like some people are being willfully obtuse on this one.