Speaking as an adoptee, I don’t give a damn if I ever meet my mother. The need to make a narrative of everything nowadays is just absurd.

True. A cousin of mine found her bio parents recently. The mom was in jail, having been an on-and-off meth addict for years. She also had 2 sons who I think are with her mom now. She had a nice time meeting her bio dad, but he got into a fight with his girlfriend a few weeks later and killed himself. Not heartwarming.…

I’m in the opposite sort of position. My mom gave up a daughter in high school (very religious family, small town where she was sent away to a convent in the hills of sorts to hide your shameful catholic daughters). Anyway, my mom has left the records open and I think has always hoped the daughter would come looking,…

As an adoptive parent, let me just say fuck this bullshit. I hope that my child never gets a whiff of this show. The last thing they need is to learn the identity of their “real” mom. The reality is ugly. And this mess only instigates more heartache.

I have the dream meet-your-adoptive-dad story. The crazy “everything is perfect” story is mine. And ya know what? I still don’t think it’s all that’s it’s cracked up to be by these shows. There’s so much expectation on the labels. What do you call that other person? How do your adoptive parents feel? What if they have…

If they did it, they did it illegally. Which is a problem regardless, and they could be prosecuted for it. I'd be more shocked if it DID end well! I mean hot damn that's like the LAST thing I would want in my life. "Hi Honey, I'm your MOM!" "WHAT THE FUCK GO AWAY"

I’ve never been a fan of what might have been fantasies so, to me, adoption means you’re entirely a member of your adoptive family. Even before DNA analysis I wouldn’t bother to even look for medical information since families are notorious for hiding the worst issues even from each other which means you’re worse off…

I do actually know all the players (and always have) so my fear was really an obscure one.

I know a lot of people disagree with me, but I think finding anonymous birth parents and sperm/egg donors is very, very wrong. Most people decide to give kids up for adoption with the expectation that they will never be found. Who knows what decision they would make if they were instead told their adopted children…

As an adoptee, I can tell you it’s not always a good thing to find your birth mother. Sometimes they can be an evil sociopathic troll. And my cousin who’s doing my genetic history just told me 20 minutes ago there’s a chance I’m 1.3% pygmy. I can believe that.

My husband’s biological mom has been attempting to make contact for 20 years. He finally decided he was ready and it's been difficult. She has a strong desire for a relationship that he isn't on the same page with. I hope the producers are very mindful of these possibilities.