So they should stay in their lane then? I have no interest at all in this, but just because they’re men they can’t write it? I write from the point of view of men and boys in my books, but from what you’re saying I shouldn’t because as a woman there is no way I could ever get into the mindset of the male creature.…

No, actually, it’s not this hard. And yes, I am bringing a wide variety of ideas to this blog post, which is simply in alignment (though perhaps not as well written) as those other ones.

I’m just working on being the best ally I can be. I’m sure I’ll stick my foot in it every now and then, but this is about being on the side of right, and has nothing to do with me personally.

Definitely agree that people shouldn’t be using it to further their own “brand” or whatever

I keep seeing various articles saying that white people need to speak up and denounce this crap, and say that reasonable white people should distance themselves from the racist assholes, and make it known that racism is unacceptable. And if you don’t you are a racist and part of the problem.

I also have seen articles…

People are angry and are looking at someone to punish. They likely don’t know any white supremacists but they certainly know a lot of well meaning liberals. Might as well go punch an ally in the face because it will make me feel better in the short-term. 

I am very confused. Between this article and this one on The Root, I haven’t seen anybody amongst my circle behaving like this, nobody inappropriately making it about themselves. They’re all being genuinely outraged and dismissive and asking what they can do to help.

srs question - If I am a white woman who is also a Jew, am I allowed to talk about this? Or does the white part cancel out the Jew part?

See, the glove thing is what jumped out to me as such an over-the-top sensational detail that it pushed me towards hoax. It’s the type of thing someone who hates Trump thinks he would say/do, like a Republican claiming that Obama said he wanted implement Sharia Law. As much as Trump is a self-aggrandizing cock, I…

No, they all are. Part of the creepiness is the ability to go about their lives as usual either unaware or unconcerned that they have done something wrong (up to and including the ability to have and keep friends who love them and would be shocked to learn of it), and the entitlement is in the helping themselves to…

It happens for “the other side” all the time; but it’s people you support and thus it appears invisible to you. Consider that people who have a different point of view from you nonetheless undergo an identical process.

This is possibly the most humorless thing I’ve read in a while. “#Adulting” is obviously a joke, meant to be taken as such. Most of the time I see it, it’s used by the person saying it to skewer themselves for being childish or lazy, not to garner praise.

Hey Matt (this is literally addressed to you, because you said you read the Jezebel comments, but it’s also addressed to everyone - so, most of us - trying to be an ally of another group):

How about we just say that no matter what you weigh, you are free to want to lose weight for whatever reason or you are free to be like fuck yeah, I’m good just the way I am. I mean yeah, it’s refreshing to hear that (as someone who is super tall and weighs more than that as a result) but lets not hate on our 135…

What made his question a derailment though other than identifying himself as a man? maybe armchair Internet feminism is better when everyone just pretends to be a woman so they aren’t shooed away and told “I’m not doing research for you”.

See, I don’t think it was derailing. The article was about what clothing constitute feminism and what doesn’t, why we wear them and why we don’t. I think it was a valid question given the subject matter. I can certainly appreciate this is a touchy and dicey subject but I don’t think he asked the question for malicious…

I don’t think ]google can settle the debate over whether or not “choice feminism” is the right kind of feminism.

I honestly wasn’t trying to wag my dick around in here, but this question I posed has always troubled me somewhat but I don’t suppose (as a man) I can really understand fully. I did appreciate your response.

I just love how they state it’s not about men, but talk about what men like or what men don’t like.

I was waiting for the Cosmo-esque buzz kill of “...and now that man is my husband” and I’m so delighted it didn’t come. I must’ve forgotten where I was.