Not just a girl thing. I’m a guy (happily married, thank God), and I never wanted sex without an emotional connection. Granted, if no-strings sex were thrown at me as a teen/twentyish guy I probably would have taken the bait. But I never sought that out. I was always up-front about it, and when third-date macking…

When I had an operation to remove a stuck kidney stone, I woke up in the recovery room with a female nurse washing my penis, with two other female nurses assisting. Blood everywhere. And pain. So much pain.

I would hope that the pan-white thing for me and my white friends to whitely celebrate during White Month is the fact that we object to being stereotyped as racists and bigots.