It isn't at all, it's just what you said "why would you persist in a behaviour that you recognised to be so bad, or at least so shameful, that you'd kill yourself if you were caught?" If you have a problem with the comparison, you have a problem with the way you phrased the question yourself. That's exactly what…

You could say the same thing about Tchaikovsky and a zillion other people who behave in ways unsanctioned by the societies they live in. The woman clearly had problems and was probably mentally ill as evidenced by her suicide- suicides are rarely the product of rational, well thought out decisions.

:o! Zayn is the best directioner!

This is the first time I've ever actually enjoyed anything from Vogue. Going outside to watch the flying pigs.

That is such a good idea, I have a two year old niece who is exactly the same. She's also going through a "mine" phase which doesn't help.

Cruel idiocy. It takes years for people to open up about their abusive childhoods, but apparently they should only talk about it when asked and then furthermore behave in a certain way. It's that kind of "it shouldn't be talked about" attitude that allows abusers to get away with what they do for years and years.

Speaking as someone with PTSD (diagnosed by a psychiatrist), I had no idea that I had it. If I had come across a diagnostic survey and got help sooner, that would have been awesome. I think it's a pretty flimsy basis on which to try and police mental health issues which are already heavily stigmatised, esp with…

Where does the article treat PTSD blithely?

How do I star this more? Because mental health has no stigma attached to it whatsoever!

You definitely need to put yourself first and try not to worry about what he thinks. Does it really affect you if he thinks it's weird that you suddenly disappear from Facebook? If you end up having to block him, do you really give a shit what he thinks? Accepting a Facebook request doesn't mean he's earned a place…

Block! Block block block. Burn those bridges! (I have had this happen a few times too, I guess I just find it hard to trust people who have been douchey in the past.)

So glad to hear other people aren't blown away by Murakami. People always seem to lose their shit over him and I don't get it. I think maybe his writing provides a kind of "quirkiness" whilst actually being really safe and super conservative, especially in regards to attitudes towards women. I've only read Dance Dance…

You should! :)

Jesus, I'm so sorry to hear that happened to your dad and his poor rabbit and for your pain too, I'm not surprised you nearly lost it. That's just mind-fucking abuse on another level. I was reading recently about patterns of behaviour with psychopaths/murderers, and that often these people with low empathy believe…

Thank you for the link. That's awesome!

It really does make perfect sense for all the reasons you've mentioned, the victims are already isolated and a pet is an easy thing to threaten. The partnership with the local humane society sounds like an amazing idea.

She is probably turned down in the verses (sacrilege!) but I guess it heightens the impact of the chorus. No worries, I too am turning into an old but my music tastes have been kindly described as "teeny bopper" so I tend to be up on these things.

I know it's kind of overused but seriously, this is so horrible. That poor woman and her poor dog.

It's stomach churning. I didn't realise that threatening pets is a common form of abuse in relationships, but it makes sense. I can't imagine how awful this poor woman must be feeling. I know what it's like to be in an abusive relationship, I know what it's like to have a pet murdered. The combination, so so horrible.…