WE WILL NOT FORGET YOU MEREDITH

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Spat my tea at the screen! Thank you for this.

Didn't he also throw around chairs in the green room after that? I think he wanted to get props for switching from women to chairs.

My bf imitates Morrissey. It's accurate and terrifying and a great contraceptive.

Really need a Jezzie meet up in Scotland, not sure how to organise it as I don't have posting privileges but I think it would be pretty awesome. We could celebrate free prescription drugs!

Exactly. I understand why people say it- because they want to rationalise the horrible thing that's happened and pretend it can never happen to them, or it has happened to them and they want to pretend it didn't. But that doesn't make it any less idiotic or hurtful, it just works to compound the abuse and I think rape…

Glad you're doing better, well done! It's hard work. Your friends sound awesome. That should be a standard reaction but sadly it just isn't.

Jeez, looks like I'm staying in Scotland.

Thank you! God bless your paranoid parents. It really works though. And it's something that goes amiss when people don't understand abuse, like "how can you have been attacked/raped? You never screamed or fought back." Freezing up when you're being raped instead of fighting, it can be an instinctive reaction to…

Thanks! "Procatinator" is such an awesome name. I cry too but I have a punching bag and kicking and punching it whilst shouting "fuck you!" also helps. If a punching bag isn't available, pillows are good too.

The impulse to cover up abuse is so strong, isn't it? Thank you. I am so sorry for what happened to you too. They are pretty much always "nice" guys, that's certainly one thing I've learned. Please don't be angry at yourself, and if you can, try to forgive yourself, even though there really is nothing to forgive. You…

Thank you so much! I'm sure this kind of thing happens a lot, so I talk about it when I feel like it to unburden myself and then I feel less ashamed about it. Also, if someone recognises their situation and thinks "I'm not alone" or realises the shit that happened to them isn't ok then that's brilliant.

Sadly, I have an English accent but my boyfriend has a softly spoken Glaswegian accent which I love (yes, that combination is possible- hence Belle & Sebastian.) I've lived in Edinburgh and still struggle with East coast accents so when you visit, good luck! Having said that Edinburgh is half full of posh Londoners…

Well let me know if you ever decide to come visit us! I've lived in Glasgow and Edinburgh so bar the Highlands, I think I'd be a pretty good tour guide. :)

Feel free to pm me if you need to talk. If you are ever having a panic attack about it, my advice is to do things that remind you that you're in the present moment and that you're safe. It's called "grounding" and there's some advice about it here just in case you need it.

I don't know what you could do about getting…

The right thing to do would be to not post it in the first place.

Yeah, I no longer speak to him but basically that's my back up. If he did publish it and I ever knew about it, me and my ex-gf could prove our age and that he gave alcohol to us. My ex also thought he drugged us. I knew someone drugged me that night but I refused to believe it was him. I woke up with him, wearing his…

Hopefully he has to live with himself in prison.

Yeah, I'm aware Isha posted the link yesterday, SO GROSS. Also, I was here when there was a mass exodus of amazing commenters because Jez posted videos of rape and certain mods were banning them en masse. I stayed away from Jez for a long time after that, so yeah I fully appreciate the irony of commenting here about…