I’ll tackle that second question. To preface this, I am transgender and medically transitioning.

You should read the article, it answers your question.

I don’t think we’re heading for the 300 mile circle of fused black glass my dad used to say Seattle/Everett/Bremerton would become as a first strike target...we’ve avoided that fate for more than 50 years. But the unholy trinity of Kim Jong, Trump, and Putin doesn’t give me confidence.

Are your parents abusive at all? Because if they aren’t, MOVE IN WITH THEM.

Girl, leave.

i read this a while back and it really opened my eyes about the unfair expectations on women to do all the emotional labour in all our relationships:

this thread about emotional labour was really eye opening for me:

DTMFA.

You want to know why women hate their husbands after having kids? Its because there are literally dozens of little things that we do that guys do not even have to think or worry about after baby comes. For instance:

My heart goes out to you. Having a baby and PPD and a husband who was not supported took me to the breaking point. It sounds like you are pulling through. Good luck.

Teaching kids to do chores is one of the chores!

I don’t criticize if the main issue is that I would do it differently. It’s fine to do things differently as long as they get done

Does he realize that he can only make all that money because you’re behind him doing everything else?

You know, growing up we were warned against marrying people who were cheaters, alcoholics/addicts, domestic abusers, etc. But another vice which can have profound effects on a marriage is LAZINESS. Having a home, maintaining a marriage, and raising kids is a lot of necessary and tedious work. If your partner is…

including a renowned zero-bullshit couple’s therapist and a former international hostage negotiator for the FBI

I assume a kid doing the chores is going to be like delegating a job to my coworkers: providing them with copious instructions, answering questions along the way, and then having to redo most of it myself after they finish.

Honey, this sounds exactly like my life...BEFORE my divorce. Run.

How Not to Hate Your Husband is a book for messy reality, but I can’t shake my frustration that its twin, written for men, isn’t out there somewhere: How to Keep Your Wife From Hating You After Kids.

I think with no kids, separate residences is key to long lasting love.

Today’s self-proclaimed feminist men aren’t nearly as feminist as they think they are.