No. Rapists use alcohol as a tool. They know perfectly well that a drunk victim and other types of " gray rape" are easier to get away with because they can feign confusion. Consent isn't actually difficult and accidental rape is not a thing.

He wasn't raped, he was fondled. He doesn't feel particularly traumatized by it. That's great for him, but he's universalizing his own experiences and telling other victims of what he calls "mild pedophilia" they have no business being traumatized. That's really fucked up.

Yes. Yes I do. How was my being held against my will by an acquaintance in his house less terrifying than that? Lack of bushes??

your experience is not wrong for you. But it's also not other people's experiences, which are also not wrong for them.

Also, why are date rape and knife point rape mutually exclusive? Like people aren't violently assaulted and raped by people they know. Like rape isn't violent enough in itself. The stupidity and ignorance is stupefying.

I'm sorry that happened to you. Your experience was your experience, and what you think about it isn't wrong. Other people may not have the same experience, however, and I think the main point here is that his statement seems to 'devalue' date rape, a crime which already isn't taken seriously enough.

I don't think that's a very apt analogy for what he said, though. This would be more like "being murdered by your friend at a party isn't as bad as being murdered by a stranger." Obviously, the victim is still dead. If a person is raped by a friend or a stranger, it's still rape.

Sadly, mine would be full of "UTIs" and "fear of more UTIs" You people are complaining about being tired??? I'm BURNING over here.

Seems to me like these people need to spend less time making spreadsheets and more time spreading on the sheets, amirite?

It's pretty fantastic, actually! Today is my day off so I'm lounging by the pool, drinking margaritas and reading thank yous from people for calling out this sexist bullshit. What's it like being an anonymous Internet commenter who gets off calling a woman "cunt"? I bet that's super fun!

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