The girl who wasn’t, actually, serious enough with the first guy to get married. She said no. She gets to move on with her life and date whoever she wants, without worrying about getting his permission for anything. 

I am bemused at the pervasive assumption that the guy who got dumped is some sort of prize Nice Guy (TM) and everyone else is the bad person. His best case scenario is that he’s so obtuse he thought he was about to get married when really he was about to get dumped. BEST case scenario.

Meh. Have fun spending your life only doing things that other people are okay with.

I, too, have opted out of men. All my life my happiest times were when I was single. Every time I was in a relationship it was a total life force suck, a drain, a never ending energy sink. Never again. 

Let’s pretend that’s the case. Well, so? His mental health is his own lookout. No woman in the world needs to tiptoe around a man so she doesn’t end up being his “tipping point” or some other bullshit. I love how everything else in his life that drove him to this alleged “tipping point” is irrelevant and only the…

Well...if you’re an addict, that’s what you are. It might make you bristle but that’s on you. 

It’s the same shit with climbers...athletes...businessmen...you name it. The woman always has to set herself aside to prioritize the man’s obsession with his own narcissistic pursuits.

“She could have kept it on the down low for another 2-3 months”

She was probably sick to fucking death of his bullshit and by the time she probably ended it for good she was already over it. She doesn’t owe him or you any sort of chaste mourning period. GTFOH with that shit. 

Wellll that really is enabling though. 

They dragged her for it from here to eternity right on good old Jezebel. 

Sounds to me like the bros are mad about something. 

Totally acceptable as I’ve never heard of him at all. Also, the story is specifically related to their relationship so yeah, it makes sense to refer to him as such. 

You can win by just not getting involved with men. Just don’t. It’s not worth it. 

Yes, dude, they are. That’s what you are determined to not grasp no matter how many people tell you. Good people with good lives don’t behave the way you do.  You’re a bad person with a shitty life, even if you don’t realize it ( but I think deep down you do realize it, which is why you are so strenuously insisting on…

lol you clearly have not. People with good lives aren’t awful people. 

I feel that you’re probably lying but even if you are, you are a sick, controlling, abusive fuckhead.

“female”

Who cares? Sometimes the bro is a better fit. I don’t see why everyone who has ever crossed paths with a romantic partner has to be off limits to me forever. 

Pfffft let’s ask every enlisted person if they’d prefer to keep their military job or be given a space on a sports team making millions and millions of dollars.