Um, no. The onus is on the cheater to do the hard work and earn back trust. Telling the person u betrayed to move on or get over it is heartless and cruel. The betrayed also have work to do-heal and recover from having their world blown up.

Lady (vanessa marin), read the comments on here and facebook lifehacker post. You dont know what the hell you are talking about.

See if you can resist once you are together for 15 years with a couple of kids. You need to deal with the issues within you that caused you to step out and you and your wife need to have honest conversations about how to stay connected when things get hard, and temptation to escape looms. Married life gets harder and…

Dip shit, I have been on this earth for 42 years. Those of us who have been cheated upon are atleast glad we know. Because most of the time, the cheater is being deceptive, sneaky, lying, accusatory, or abusive and we cant figure it out. We think we are crazy or they tell us we are crazy. I am glad to finally know it…

I hear you. Somewhere in the recesses of your mind, the clues are hiding, then one day BAM—your brain puts it together. In my case, I had a dream that woke me up crying. Of course, I dismissed the dream as just that. But then I later realized that the dream of a blonde woman in bed with my H was the bitch that had no…

Vanessa,