I hear your point but in certain contexts such as this, I think people should be uncomfortable and thoughtful about the origins of their dating preferences. Some people may look at their preferences and find them to be the product of a variety of harmless factors. But preferences around certain optics—such as…
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Agreed, we can't force ourselves to be attracted to anyone. But I think that as individuals (and myself as a white male), it's imperative to be anti-racist in our daily lives. Even just checking a box can reinforce racist stigmas if it publicly announces to the world you aren't attracted to certain races. I think the…
It's both!
The historical context is racism and colorism.
I would use the word racist, myself. Also, creepy.
Since dating is not a democracy, it's not racist to have a preference for a person of similar background. But... when people say stuff like "I don't find Asian men attractive," I have to wonder, did you really need to communicate that shit to me? It's called an inner life — that's where you put those thoughts you…
I mean...that's Mariah, right? Damn!
Oh, the cheating isn't the only problem; he's also really dumb. Sometimes I try to convince myself that he's just uneducated, not actually unintelligent, because he does seem to *want* to learn — and he really has learned at least some emotional depth and awareness of societal issues from me (for example, he used to…
Thank you so mucho or posting those thoughts. It absolutely infuriates me that I feel like I have to make dire compromises in my dating/sex life, because so many men are so absolutely untrustworthy and despicable. I keep going back and forth with my idiot ex who refuses to stop sleeping with other women, but doesn't…
The person that made that meme is nuts. I'd totally live there. I'd creep past the windows in a long, tatty Mrs. Havisham gown.
In a related story parents of singles hurling passive aggressive thinly veiled jibes bout lack of grandchildren have gone up 300%
That does help, actually. Personally, I've given up on sex and am strictly playing it 'by hand'. It's more consistently pleasing, and I don't have to put up with bullshit.
My (now ex)boyfriend had pictures of all his ex-girlfriends. He'd trade pictures online, amateur shot for amateur shot; supposedly just of the ex that was actively trying to ruin his life, as she 'deserved it'. Call me crazy, but for some reason I didn't want him to take pictures of me. So he didn't...while I was…
Brag porn. We can call what he did brag porn. He prob wanted other dudes to be all jealous of all of the hot sex he has with his hot girlfriend or something.
Grown ass people living with their parents really isn't a red flag these days. Times are tough yo.
Agreed on all accounts. My last statement about NYC girls' complaints was certainly frustrated hyperbole that unfairly appeared to direct my frustration about a certain stereotype on to the entire population. Apologies if it came off as genuine painting of the brush on the entire population!
I'm saving myself for my manic pixie dream spring boyfriend. He's sprightly and mischievous, much like Puck. Must be 5' or under. (Some exceptions if you're 5'1", but you better be REALLY sprightly and mischievous.)
This is the only pseudo-uplifting thing I've read in relation to this story. I'll be glad when the hype calms down. If I have to see one more internet meme about beating or one more moron on my Facebook feed saying, "and she married him!!!" I'm going to lose it.