wow. interesting. yeah, i hope for her, she turns out to truly be a victim of this guy. it seems extremely likely. it’s all just so bizarre.

always

yeah. just guessing the guy instigated that after she was deeply enmeshed. just a hunch....right? :| i wonder how brain washed she actually was...

nosy co -workers are the worst. you aren’t there to make friends. change topics and start brushing her off without being rude.

Go! Bad dates make funny stories, good dates lead to good stuff. I don’t communicate much on apps before meeting anymore. One guy used all my confessions to him in conversation to pretend to be who he thought I wanted, and it was a horrible mess, and he’s a manipulative guy who used the hell out of me. Chemistry has…

Good luck tomorrow! Chemistry is important, but it can vary in degree and grow especially once the sexing starts. If it’s REALLY not there, just forget it b/c there is someone else out there awesome who you’ll have chemistry and compatible in other areas. I’m drinking rose and waiting for my boyfriend to arrive. We’re…

prolly not. other than - SD dating is typically not those looking for a lasting relationship on either end. me being me i’m always looking for that if i’m dating.

omg the kitties hugging and the kitting looking after her / assisting her is just too sweet. i’ve seen like, mom and baby cats adorably hugging but this is so cute - this kitty is helping her girlfriend / fellow mom.

And yes I am a feminist. I believe women are equal to men. In dating, unfortunately a lot of men desire a woman, manipulate and misrepresent themselves, using information they learn about what they think the woman wants to win her over - only to end up both people are miserable. I don’t think that’s honest or…

I don’t date people I feel that way about? I don’t date someone who I don’t deeply respect and want to spend time with. I would say that’s a good choice, right? I’ve had men spend a LOT of effort trying to woo me, when I was younger I’d be confused and fall for it. Later to find out, there were so many things about…

Dyram - you are awesome. Thanks for the really kind comment. I truly appreciate it! I stepped away from the comments today didn’t want to get further sucked into it, so I’m sure I have more criticism I didn’t read. You’re right - as long as I’m pursuing happiness that’s what matters. For the record to all the haters -…

Sorry for what you’ve been through. You sound like you were able to get therapy and recognize it for what it was. I was with a manipulative self help guru (not a cult leader....YET) and it was all gaslighting, shaming, isolating, manipulating, and the whole thing. It is SO hard to understand how people actually get…

It was so fetishizing her weight. He completely just had to know. As some said above, he could have touched on the topic of actors and weight loss instead just ‘what did you weigh?’ So completely objectifying / fetishizing needed to know the number. So pervy.

lol. it was such a pervy question!

Everyone is way misunderstanding my original post because it sounded like I was a serial dater using guys off apps - not at all. I am looking to settle down and would like to have a small family. I also work, and live alone, and pay my own bills. Based on income disparity a lot of guys I’ve dated will pick up most of…

I’m dating someone I plan on marrying, and he isn’t the kind of guy who has a roaming eye. He’s sweet and romantic, and we’re in love, and I trust him deeply unlike many other guys I’ve been with. I’ve never had a sugar daddy. I’ve had a few wealthy and distinguished boyfriends, and guys who enjoy being generous to…

Pretty sure it is! Since he texts me constantly when we’re not together, is introducing me to his family, wants to see me as much as possible, tells me he loves me, even asked me what kind of engagement ring I prefer, and has met all of my friends and some of my family. No one is holding him at gunpoint to be with me.…

nope i have one i’d like to keep for a long time.

Yup. You’re the kind of man I’ve learned to avoid. ;)

ha ha ;) not really. i genuinely want a long term relationship. the relationships i’m speaking about in this post - one guy broke up with me, not the other way around. we’re still friends, because we respect each other and like each other - circumstances lead to the breakup. we’d like to stay in touch and socialize…