I work with people caught in the criminal justice system for the past 13 years. Some of the more dangerous individuals I have worked with have adopted ideals such as this without the “gameification” factor. Ultimately, when an individual is able to view the “enemy” as an object, violence against that object becomes…

The idea that shit posting on 4chan and believing virulent versions of the prejudices that your great grandparents believed - this somehow qualifies as awakened and authentic thought?

None of what you just said solves the problem that neither of the two parties involved consented. That makes it illegal. What you are suggesting is a crime. You cannot make it any less illegal by blurring shit.

To be clear, I mentioned right after hair color thing that I understand that they’re fundamentally different.

How about not setting “ethics aside” in romantic relationships with people we care about?

That’s a horrible idea. It violates trust in a really profound way and it smothers communication. It’s a much better and much more mature idea to break things off, let her do her thing, he does his thing, and they agree to talk about their respective experiences and whether they were happier in a relationship together…

“I’m a creep who wrote ten paragraphs on why secretly filming a sexual encounter isn’t creepy.”

No good idea ever begins with “ethics aside”...

“Not if the couple in question went to said professional and gave consent to a broad variety of ecperimental means with the understanding they wouldn’t be made privy to them until after.”

It’s extremely unlikely that this dude’s girlfriend is going to find a woman who is not only down for some casual sex with a…

ETHICS ASIDE?

I’m almost positive it is illegal for your hypothetical professional to view that footage. It would definitely not make their career, because those ethics you want to discard are pretty damn important to the APA.

DO NOT PLANT A HIDDEN CAMERA

might be a bit creepy to say but

Perhaps, but in the realm of advice it’s best to not set ethics aside, in my opinion.

Uh, that would be entirely creepy and possibly illegal.

I’m pretty sure that would be illegal in at least some states, and unethical in all of them. Nobody should be filmed during sex without their consent.

I posted this above, but I think it needs reiterating. He should take a break from his girlfriend and agree to meet up for coffee a year later. She will either figure out who she is and what she wants really fast because she didn’t expect him to walk away or they can have a discussion in the future and see where they…

Yeah, I’d say that given that this is a long-distance relationship (and thus trust has to be PARAMOUNT), they should probably at least put it on the backburner for now.

The fact that he isn’t saying he should be able to have sex with other people and he doesn’t want her to have sex with other people? So, pretty much all of it?

To the second guy: It’s over. She’s actively looking to hook up with people that aren’t you and you had enough suspicion to pull the extinction level event (IMO) of snooping on her texts. That’s not a healthy relationship and most likely never will be.